Vulnerable

Writing That Matters

Garth Beyer

Keep Moving, Keep Writing

– writing that requires you to emotionally place yourself in the shoes of another

– writing that makes you feel vulnerable

– writing that not everyone will agree with

– writing that’s essentially a brain dump

– writing that someone will provide feedback on

Here are five forms of writing to check off daily. Managing to check off just one a day will make you a better writer, will make a difference for those who read it, and will add to your confidence not only as a writer, but as a thought-leader as well.

 

Stay Positive & Go Write Something

Keep It Short

Garth Beyer

People connect on vulnerable terms. Progress is most effectively made in short bursts. Keeping it short is taking away the fluff, the cushion, the safety net. Short is hard work. Hard work is valuable work. And valuable work is always the result of people becoming vulnerable.

 

Stay Positive & Worth Watching… don’t worry, it’s short.

Giving Whenever Asked

Giving Whenever Asked

Garth Beyer

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If I signed up for everything my friends and acquaintances asked me to, I would be spread out, seriously vulnerable and broke. If I gave whenever asked to give, I’d have nothing left to give. Out of time, of money, of resources. I have to say no to people I care about more often than you may think. I’m not necessarily a hard sell. I’m just selfish. I have to be.

For those I say no to, I wish I could help, but I can’t. For those I say no to, let me suggest something new and give you a newsflash. Newsflash first.

Newsflash: You don’t need my help, my tribe, my resources to be successful. You have the power to gather your own tribe and create a strategy for success.

Something new: Do the hard work. Don’t seek out the people who can make your success happen with a wave of their wand and don’t seek people out who you can piggyback off their success. Do the hard work of developing your one page marketing plan, the hard work of seeing it all the way through, the hard work of starting out small and growing over a long period of time.

If you’re not in it for the long run, why are you in it?

 

Stay Positive & Enjoy The Journey, Really, Enjoy It

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Stronger Meaning In A Long Relationship-Less Amount Of Fun

Stronger Meaning In A Long Relationship-Less Amount Of Fun

Garth Beyer

The price you pay in a relationship that grows stronger and stronger is that you become more vulnerable. Both in the sense of getting hurt and of hurting the other emotionally. Before a relationship deepens you are extremely sweet and kind. When you do say something mean or rude it is said and taken as a  joke. You end up having a silly argument together out of it for fun.

But once deep into a relationship, jokes get taken seriously, even though there is no way in heaven that you would ever mean it. What was once perceived as helping the other out is now taken as criticism. In addition there is less patience, the other will be more inclined to snap at you when aggravated and it becomes more difficult to help the aggravated other feel unstressed.

More attitude is given and when aggravated, the emotion is directed at you and there is nothing you can do.

A simple example is that in the beginning my relationship I could tell that her hair looked like a hurricane had struck recently. We would have laughed and carried on with the day. I might slip in another joke in about her hair after we ran in gym class. Now that we are nearly two years into our relationship, I can’t joke about her hair. She will pout and run off to fix it rather than laughing about it and possibly extending the joke herself.

The answer to solve all of this…  is to be figured out.

Is there no cure for it? Is the fact that you are in a deep relationship mean that you are more credible for everything you say, that every word that comes out of your mouth is taken in the most honest and whole-hearted-whole-minded way? Then whose fault is it one when gets hurt? Is it the person who says something as a joke? Or the person who takes the joke seriously and reacts as if they really meant it?

 

Stay Positive and More Sincere As Your Relationship Strengthens

Garth E. Beyer