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A List Of 30 Lists

Garth Beyer

Lists

A list of…

  1. What you are thankful for
  2. The moments in life you felt most alive
  3. This week’s goals
  4. Goals to be met within five years
  5. 99 ridiculous things you want to do before you die (no limit on possibility)
  6. What is stopping you from doing what you need to do
  7. What is stopping you from doing what you want to do (yes, they’re different)
  8. Every book you have read (not a list of every book you want to read!)
  9. Sources of inspiration
  10. Places you want to visit (test: can’t be on the first page of a Google search)
  11. Websites/podcasts that you must visit weekly, if not daily
  12. Your top 10 bad habits to break
  13. All the contacts you have made and something special about them
  14. Songs that get you moving
  15. Every source you have been quoted or mentioned
  16. What you want in a significant other
  17. Ideas that have been rejected, laughed at, or you didn’t deem as “good enough”
  18. Things to feel okay about (here is a start)
  19. What you don’t need to make a list for (things you do naturally, habitually)
  20. What you want your kids to know that you didn’t know growing up
  21. Mistakes you have made
  22. What you learned from those mistakes
  23. Things to admit now that you will later, anyway (here’s some ideas)
  24. Hurdles that have stopped you in the past
  25. What you love
  26. How you are different from other people, what makes you a niche
  27. What is happening right now without your effort that is building your brand
  28. People you want to meet in the next 10 years
  29. Your personal bests (running, blogging, audience count, viewers, subscribers)
  30. What is stopping you from making these lists when you know it will only help you

Stay Positive & Get Going

Garth E. Beyer

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Waiting For Confirmation

Garth Beyer

2392520183_405635fcb6_nI’m getting bombarded with calls about whether students are confirmed scholars – that they will get the grant.

I’m talking to a close friend about a possible relationship. She just wants confirmation that the guy feels the same way.

Confirmation is like expecting a genie to come out of a lamp without rubbing it.

My shortcut to overcoming fear’s defensive method of convincing you that you need confirmation is that the feeling itself is confirmation enough.

Outside of typical fears such as a fear of height, being afraid means that you are thinking about something risky, special, and all-so-worth-it. Cut yourself a break and realize that the desire for a confirmation is confirmation.

If it wasn’t worth it, if you weren’t right, if it wasn’t meant to be, then you would never need or ask for confirmation in the first place, now would you?

 

Stay Positive & Go Make It Happen

Garth E. Beyer

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The Big Things

Garth Beyer

Really aren’t the big things. And, actually, the little things don’t add up to the big things.

What makes us feel that something is big is a quick succession of noticed and understood little things.

Telling someone you love them isn’t a big thing. Simply, in that moment, you are processing the 10,000 little things that make you feel the way you do.

Finally sharing your creations, your art, is not a big thing. It’s just a realization that you feel connected with people who want your work, that you feel satisfied with what you’ve made, that you appreciate all that you have been given and are ready to give back, that you care about those whom this product will help, that… this list of little things is endless.

It’s not about the moments that take your breath away, but all the thoughts and feelings you are acquainting that moment with as your breath escapes you.

Happiness comes from noticing the little things. The richest happiness comes from noticing the most little things in the shortest period of time.

 

Stay Positive & Big Idea, Huh?

Garth E. Beyer

Not Settling But Keeping Where You Are At

Garth Beyer

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I’m a strong advocate for never settling, for accepting what you get whether you think you deserve it or not, and always striving for more.

However, there have been moments a dear friend reminds me not to settle with something. What is hard to convince him is that I’m not settling, I’m merely making the most of what I have at the moment.

I think to my Uncle who I continuously learn from. He once told me that although he is married and madly in love, he knows that there may be someone better out there for him. For one with a “do not settle” mindset, it’s hard to understand why he would stay with my aunt, but I get it, he is making the most of what he has now.*

When you make the most of what you have, it’s not settling.

Often times, making the most of what you have now is what leads to greater things in the future.

 

Stay Positive & Love Like There Are No Other Options And Your Options Will Multiply

Garth E. Beyer

*There are also points in life where you will have the chance to reach for something better, but you won’t take it. There is a type of satisfaction when settling that involves a sense of comfortability and there is a sense of satisfaction when settling that involves pure happiness. My uncle has the latter.

You Deserve The World

Garth Beyer

But, it’s not about what you deserve. Remember the saying that Perks of Being a Wallflower so joyously reminds us of? “We accept the love that we think we deserve.”

But, in reality, it’s not just love – it’s money, it’s friends, it’s the education, it’s the surprises and it’s the weird life turns. That’s why I do my best not to think about what I deserve. Rather, life is better lived leaving it at wanting what you want and accepting what you get.

Forget what you deserve, what you think you deserve, or what anyone else thinks you deserve. If we would first stop limiting ourselves and refusing what other people or life offers us, then we could finally start being constantly amazed with life.

 

Stay Positive & Who Doesn’t Love Being Amazed

Garth E. Beyer

Can’t Tell

Garth Beyer

And the worst thing is, you can’t tell.

You can’t tell that the person beside you may be heart-broken. You can’t tell if they are hurting all over. You can’t tell if they’re struggling to smile. You can’t tell if they just want to break down and cry. And the sad thing is; they wish you could tell.

You can’t tell if you’re bored or hungry, you can’t tell if it’s love you are actually feeling, you can’t tell what someones first judgement of you is, you can’t tell if that person will ever come around. And the sad thing is: you wish you could tell.

There’s a lot of things in life that you just can’t tell.

I’ve always said, it’s not that everyone is fighting their own battles.

It’s that they are losing them.

 

Stay Positive & Give People A Chance

Garth E. Beyer