GarthBox

I texted a buddy of mine last week and we agreed to read a parenting book together. Our kids are drifting into a new stage, the one where the old chapters stop applying, and neither of us wanted to wing it.

What struck me when I hit send was a memory from the last round of parenting books, years ago, when my girls were tiny. The books helped before I applied a single technique from them. The reading itself did the work. Twenty minutes with someone else’s hard-won patience and I was a more patient dad by dinner. I hadn’t practiced anything. I had just been marinating.

That’s the whole trick, and it costs almost nothing, doesn’t it?

Your brain takes posture cues from whatever you feed it. This isn’t manifesting. Nothing in the universe rearranges itself because you listened to a podcast.

It’s closer to stretching before a run.

The input warms up the part of you that’s about to be needed.

I used to work with an agency that served the director of marketing for Wisconsin tourism, a man who read a new book roughly every month and then wanted to test what he learned, immediately, with us. The agency learned to brace every thirty days. Some people complained. I admired the hell out of it. He had built a machine where intake became experiment on a fixed schedule, and his curiosity set the weather for every team that touched his account.

Real talk…I’d have appreciated a heads-up about the forecast, but the system itself was beautiful.

I’ll admit the counterexample, because I know him personally: a marketing friend of mine who reads nothing about marketing, business, or entrepreneurship at all, and who is very good at his job. So this is not a law of physics. Some people get their inputs from somewhere I can’t see. But for most of us, the lever is sitting right there.

Which brings me to Denzel Washington. I watched an interview where he advocated for five minutes of nothing after you wake up. Just lie there. No phone, no inbox, no charging into the day. You with you. I am not going to argue with Denzel, and I’m not going to improve on the first five minutes.

I want to talk about the second five.

After the stillness, before the day grabs you, you get one clean window where nothing has claimed your attention yet. Spend it consuming something aimed at who you’re trying to become. Five minutes of a book on the thing you want to build. Five minutes of someone who already lives where you’re headed. Library app, YouTube, a single page, an AI summary of a chapter you’ll never otherwise reach. The format doesn’t matter. The aim (that warm up stretch?) does.

Marketers already know this works because we do it to other people for a living.

Nobody buys a trail running shoe the moment they see the ad. They buy it after weeks of accidentally consuming trail running, until one day the identity fits and the purchase is just paperwork. Brands don’t sell products to strangers. They feed people inputs until the people aren’t strangers to the idea anymore.

The second five minutes is simply running that play on yourself, and choosing the brand manager. (Cough cough That’s you…)

The same goes if you lead a team, by the way. Your people are marinating in something every day, and the strongest flavor in the pot is you. (Okay, getting a little weird. Lost your appetite, but you got the point.)

My buddy and I start the book next week. I already know the first chapter will work before I finish it. Not because the advice is good, though it probably is.

Because for five minutes, I’ll be a guy who reads about being a better dad, and that guy walks into the kitchen differently.

Stay Positive & Might Be The Best 10 Minutes Of Every Day

A stranger emailed me twice this week offering to build my website. Same pitch both times. Local guy, building sites for local businesses, keeping the price low, quick call sometime? The first copy had his signature filled in. The second copy still had the template showing, brackets and all, the place where his name was supposed to go sitting there empty like a costume sent with the hanger still in it.

I’ll admit something: I sometimes respond to these emails.

Part of it is curiosity about whether there’s actual value buried in there. The cost is one minute of my life, and let’s be honest, I waste minutes in far worse ways. Part of it is something closer to coaching instinct. I read these pitches the way a chef reads a bad menu, half annoyed, half rooting for the kitchen.

Because this one was close. Achingly close. One line in his prompt would have changed everything. Something like: “before you write the email, actually look at the website and shape a POV.”

Then the opener stops being “I build affordable websites” and becomes “your website is already killer, and I think I can make a few improvements you haven’t thought of yet.” That version gets a reply from me the same morning. Not because it flatters me, but because it’s accurate, and accuracy is the cheapest available form of respect.

My old CMO once joked he should just put me in charge of the company site after seeing what I’d done with mine. The guy in my inbox could have known that too. The evidence was one click away. He had a research assistant that works for free and he didn’t ask it to look.

You know the old line about outrunning a bear. You don’t need to be the fastest runner alive, just faster than the guy next to you. Differentiation works like that more often than anyone selling differentiation will admit.

The inbox is not a footrace against the whole category. It’s a footrace against the other four cold emails that landed that same Tuesday, every one of them wearing the same template.

We pour ourselves into becoming the fastest. New positioning, new brand, new everything, chasing some imagined gap of fifty miles per hour. Then you put real pressure on the problem and find out the gap was never fifty. You weren’t thirty-seven layers away from a yes. You were one. Maybe two.

He’ll never know how close he was. That’s the part that stays with me.

(Or, maybe, if he’s smart enough, he’ll read this post and try again. One layer smarter.)

Stay Positive & Fill In Your Signature
– GarthBox

Assumptions have earned their bad reputation. Most of them are shortcuts your brain takes to avoid the inconvenience of finding out. They cost you deals, friendships, and at least one Thanksgiving per decade.

But a few assumptions are load-bearing.

Pull them out and the whole structure of getting anything done starts to sag. The difference is the math.

A bad assumption saves you a little effort now and bills you later. A good assumption is a bet where being wrong costs pocket change and being right pays out for years.

Over the years, I’ve written down many that make a difference. Here are six.

1. Assume positive intent.

The email that reads as a slap was probably typed with one thumb in a parking lot. If you’re wrong, you lose a little pride. If you’re right, you keep a colleague, a customer, a friend. That trade is so lopsided it should be illegal.

2. Assume the work will find its people.

This one feels naive and isn’t. Distribution has never been better at matching strange things with the people who love strange things. Which means the job is no longer reaching everyone. The job is being unmistakable to someone. Make the thing sharper, weirder, more specifically yours, and trust that the sorting machinery will do what it was built to do. Watered-down work is the only thing the algorithm can’t help.

3. Assume half the time and half the budget.

Not as pessimism. As design constraint. The version of the project that survives a 50 percent cut is usually the version that should have shipped anyway. Scarcity is a brutal editor, and brutal editors are the only ones worth paying.

4. Assume the newest person in the room sees something you can’t.

You’ve gone blind to your own wallpaper. They haven’t. The week-two employee asking “why do we do it this way?” is holding a flashlight, not a complaint. Teams that assume their people know something leadership doesn’t end up with people who act like it.

5. Assume the customer is right about the pain and wrong about the cure.

When someone says “you should add this feature,” believe the ache completely and the prescription not at all. They are the world’s leading expert on how it feels and an amateur at what to build. Your job is to be the difference between those two things.

6. Assume you’ll be quoted without the context.

Every sentence you write at work will eventually travel alone: screenshotted, forwarded, pasted into a channel you didn’t know existed. Write the sentence so it survives the trip. This sounds like paranoia and is actually just positioning. Clarity is what your message wears when you’re not there to introduce it.

That’s the list. But there’s one assumption that never makes the cut, no matter how generously I squint: the assumption that anyone owes you their attention. Nobody does. Not your customers, not your audience, not your team sitting through your all-hands. Every good assumption above works because it spends your own optimism. That one spends other people’s time, and they will quietly stop lending it.

Assume the best of people. Assume nothing of their attention.

Stay Positive & Am I Calling You Out In This Post? Or Is There Positive Intent?

(It’s track season, so you can expect a sprinkle more motorcycle-inspired marketing posts.)

I bought a Yamaha R7 knowing it would lose.

Not lose everything. Lose the straight. Put it next to a liter bike and the second the road opens up, the liter bike becomes a dot. I knew that at the dealership. The R7 looks like it was carved by someone who loved you, it handles corners like it’s reading your mind, and it was priced like a bike a normal person could actually own. So I bought the corners and the feel and the way it looks parked outside the bar. I did not buy the straightaway. The straightaway was never on the table.

That was an honest trade. I knew which game I was playing.

The trouble starts when you forget.

A lot of us spend our best hours on the part of the work that photographs well. The deck. The dashboard. The workflow diagram with the nice rounded corners. The visual system that makes you feel like a serious person.

…And almost no hours on the thing that actually feeds all of it: the data underneath, the structure, the unglamorous layer that decides whether any of the pretty stuff is even true.

I did this to myself a few weeks ago.

I built a gorgeous display for the beer offerings at the bar. Clean, alive, the kind of thing you want glowing above the taps. I loved it. Then I went to actually wire it up and found out I couldn’t get the API connection I had designed the whole thing around. The data stream I assumed would be waiting for me simply wasn’t there. The beautiful surface was sitting on nothing.

So I went down into the basement to lay the plumbing by hand.

And the strange part, the part I didn’t see coming: the basement turned out to be the most interesting room in this metaphorical house. Building the workarounds meant putting my hands directly into the raw material, and once they were in there, I found room I never would have found from upstairs. Places to add my own flare. Small decisions about how a pour gets described, what gets emphasized, where a little personality could live inside the system instead of just sitting on top of it. I automated what deserved to be automated. But I built character into the layer nobody sees, and that character now leaks upward into the part everybody does.

The surface has a ceiling. You can only polish a thing so far. The basement is where the surprises were hiding the whole time.

Alas. There’s something more powerful here… It’s that surface and substance are not good and evil.

They are two clocks running at two speeds.

The surface runs on the showroom clock. It wins the glance, the first impression, the screenshot, the “oh, that’s nice.” That clock is real. I am a marketer. Story is not decoration to me, it is the product. People buy the R7 because of how it looks, and there is nothing shameful in that.

But the substance runs on the season clock. It wins the long race, the second visit, the thing that is still standing in March. You cannot fake the season clock with showroom work. No amount of fairing closes the gap on the straight. Displacement does that. What is actually under the tank does that.

The mistake is not loving the surface. The mistake is losing track of which clock is keeping score this quarter, and spending all your hours on the one that isn’t.

The show is a game that never ends. The structure underneath is how you finally win one.

Stay Positive & See You In The Substance

I came off the track at Blackhawk Farms with both wheels in the rumble strips on turn three, which is the kind of thing that rattles your teeth and your ego in the same half second. I wasn’t tipping in hard enough. I wasn’t braking hard enough. I ran wide onto the rough stuff, gathered it up, and came around to where the control riders stand.

And here’s what I did, the same thing I do every session. I walked straight up and told the coach exactly where I blew it. Turn three. Too timid on the brakes, too gentle on the lean. He nodded, told me to trust the front tire past where it feels safe, and sent me back out. Thirty seconds of confession. No flinch. No file.

Now picture me doing that at work.

Picture walking into a room and saying, out loud, “I underdid it on the thing that mattered and I want to fix it.” Watch how fast the air changes. Somewhere on the way up the ladder we learned that the smart move is to not say that. To let the mistake sit quiet and hope the telemetry never gets read.

That’s the whole thing right there. On a racetrack, your mistake is telemetry. At the office, we treat it like a verdict.

Telemetry is just data. It tells you the brake pressure was light and the entry was early and now you know what to change. A verdict is a sentence. It goes in a file, gets read aloud at promotion time, follows you down the hall. Same mistake, two completely different fates, and the only difference is what the room decides to do with it.

So people stopped reporting their own laps. Not because they got cowardly. Because they got accurate. They learned that in most companies, failure isn’t a brake trace, it’s a permanent mark, and the rational move is to bury it. I don’t blame anyone for that math. I’ve run it myself early in my career.

But I want to poke at the thing that makes the math work, the quiet assumption underneath all of it. The assumption is that you’ll be in that chair forever, so the record matters forever, so protect the record.

Let’s face reality together, though… You will not be there forever. Almost nobody is. And the part that surprised me is the reason you’ll leave. It won’t be money, mostly. It’ll be that you got tired of riding without a coach. Tired of coming off your hardest laps with nobody to tell, nobody who wants you faster, nobody whose job is to make you better instead of to grade you. That hunger is real and it does not go quiet. Eventually you go find the coach somewhere else.

Which means the permanent record you’ve been protecting was never that permanent. You were guarding a thing you were always going to walk away from.

So this one is a reminder for two people.

If you’re the one making the mistakes, and that’s all of us, the move is not blind confession to anyone wearing a badge. The move is to find the control riders. The people who genuinely want you faster and gain nothing from your stumble. Tell them everything. Tell them turn three. Then notice how many people around you are not that, and stop handing them your telemetry like it’s a verdict. Reading the difference is the actual skill. Not bravery. Discernment.

And if you’re the one standing where the coaches stand, the one people report to, understand what their silence is telling you. When your people stop saying where they blew it, you did not hire a team of cowards. You built a track where running wide ends careers, and now every motorcycle is lying to you about how it’s really handling. You are flying blind and calling it professionalism. The fix is not a values poster. It’s the first time someone admits a real failure to you and you treat it like brake data instead of a character flaw. They are all watching what happens that day. The whole team recalibrates around it.

…That’s where the speed actually lives. Not in failing less. The fast ones don’t crash less, they’ve just made it cheap to say “I crashed.”

Lower the cost of telling the truth and everything underneath it speeds up, the work, the trust, the person.

I went back out at Blackhawk and carried more brake into three. Trusted the front a little past where it felt safe. Got it most of the way right, then overcooked the entry to four and ran wide again. Told the coach that one too.

Stay Positive & If That Ain’t Growth, I Don’t Know What Is

Tomorrow is supposed to be a track day. Motorcycle, full leathers, the kind of day I book months out and think about more than I admit to people. The forecast says severe thunderstorms. Lightning, the whole show.

So I’ve been doing the math on not going.

It starts where everyone’s starts: the money. I paid for the session. That’s the obvious cost of staying home, the number with a dollar sign on it, sitting there like a receipt I have to keep looking at. Fine. But the receipt was just the front door.

Because once I started paying attention, the list got longer on its own. The cost of not going isn’t only the session fee. It’s the months I told myself I’d get faster and didn’t. It’s the friends who’ll be there without me. It’s the version of me that books the day and then flinches. It’s the small erosion that happens every time I let weather decide who I am. Give it ten minutes of honest attention and I find ten more. Give it an hour and I’ll find a hundred.

And that’s what I want to tell you, because it’s the part I almost walked right past.

The list of what it costs to stay the same has no bottom. You can always find one more cost.

That feels like wisdom.

It feels like you’re finally being honest with yourself. But a list that never closes isn’t clarity. It’s an engine. And the engine has a job, which is to make standing still feel so expensive that you’ll do anything to make the feeling stop.

We sell with this engine constantly. The whole agitation move in marketing runs on it. Name the prospect’s pain, then the next one, then the next, until doing nothing feels unbearable and the only relief on the table happens to be your product.

It works. People buy to make the dread stop. I’ve written those emails. I’ve felt the pull from the other side of them.

What the engine will never say is the thing that actually matters. It will never tell you to stay home in the lightning.

The salesman who lives inside “what does it cost NOT to do this” is paid by the length of the list. He is very good at his job and he is not on your side. He’ll itemize every reason to ride and he will leave one thing off every single time: the actual conditions. The storm. The wet track. The fact that some costs of inaction are real and some are just the dread wearing a suit, and that telling those two apart is the only skill in the whole exercise.

So I’ve stopped trying to make the list longer. The list always wins that game. What I’m doing instead is putting a floor under it. I let the costs of not going say their piece, all of them, and then I make them stand next to the one variable they keep trying to talk over. The sky.

There’s a lesson in here for the work too, and it isn’t the one the funnel-builders learned. The strongest thing a brand can do is be the voice that tells you to stay home. The one that says not today, not for you, the conditions are wrong. That brand costs itself a sale and buys something the agitation engine can never afford. You believe it the next time the sky clears. Trust is just the residue of every time someone told you the truth when the lie would have paid better.

I still don’t know if I’m going. The list is loud. The sky is the real answer, and the sky hasn’t finished deciding either.

But I know which voice I’m listening to now. Not the one counting costs. The one looking up.

Stay Positive & I Guess You’ll Know If I’ve Gone Based On When I Actually Publish A Post Tomorrow….

For about a century and a half, the most famous whiskey in America had one name on the label, and it was not the name of the man who taught him how to make it.

Jack Daniel learned to distill from Nathan “Nearest” Green, who knew how to run whiskey through sugar maple charcoal until it came out smooth. Green had been enslaved, and he was, by most accounts, the first known African American master distiller. He taught Jack the exact thing that made Jack famous. And for a hundred and fifty years, the bottle said one word, and that word was not Nearest.

I want to be careful here, because the easy version of this is a scolding, and I am not interested in scolding. The brand eventually told the truth. Green’s family got their name back, and a whiskey called Uncle Nearest now sits on shelves doing very well for itself. The cover got corrected. Good.

But I keep thinking about the cover itself, and why we build them in the first place.

A name is a compression format. It takes something enormous, a building full of work and failure and forty people’s Tuesdays, and squeezes it down small enough to fit on a bottle, a marquee, a chisel mark at the base of a statue.

We did it to Edison, who ran a lab full of scientists.

We did it to the ceiling of a chapel a whole crew painted while one man’s name went into the books.

We do it because a story needs a protagonist, a category needs a face, and no human heart has ever fallen in love with an org chart.

That is not a flaw in marketing. That is marketing. Positioning is compression.

You cannot fit the whole truth on the label, so you pick the one true thing that travels and you let it carry the rest. The single name is doing a real job. It holds trust in a shape light enough to pass from stranger to stranger with no instructions attached.

So I am not going to tell you to put forty names on the bottle. The bottle is not where the truth lives.

Here is what I actually believe, and it took me opening a bar to feel it in my chest.

My name is on Garth’s Brew Bar. That is the compression. That is the cover, and the cover is doing its job, and I am not embarrassed by it.

But I have noticed how I talk when someone is standing right in front of me. Almost the first thing out of my mouth, every time, is that my name is on the sign and the place is the work of a stack of people far more talented than that sign suggests. I do not do it to look humble. I do it because it is the truer, better story, and because the person in front of me already got the compressed version on the way in. They read the cover. Now they have opened the book, and the book is where the real thing is kept.

That is the whole move, and it is not a trick. We want the shiny cover. We pick the restaurant by the name, the whiskey by the label, the bar by the sign. And then, the moment we are inside, the moment we are close, we go hunting for the real story. We are starved for it. The cover gets us in the door. The roster keeps us in the room.

The mistake was never putting one name on the bottle. The mistake is starting to believe the bottle.

Nearest Green ran the whiskey. Jack got the label. Both of those are true, and only one of them fit on the glass.

The job of anyone whose name is on the door is to never once confuse the two: let the name do its compressed, necessary work out in the world, and then, every single time someone gets close enough to ask, open the book and read them a name that isn’t yours.

Stay Positive & My Name Is The Smallest True Thing On The Sign