It’s great to be a knight in shining armor. It’s fulfilling to solve a problem fast.
That’s one kind of human personality.
The other that this one interacts with is often an active resistor.
When someone is being faced with a large change, they hate it right away. They want to resist it. They’re vocal about their emotions about the change.
Match this person with that knight in shining armor and you have a recipe for disaster.
Reason being? Active resisting is often short-term. They don’t want a problem solved. They want to be listened to.
There was a management change for a friend of mine recently. He was irate about it. Vocal. Pissed off. It took all my energy to NOT convince him of the benefits…to shut up and listen. After listening a bit, I told him to take the night and sleep on it and that we could talk about it more the next day. The next day came and he’d come to terms with the change and started to see the positive. No shining armor was ever needed.
Again, it’s so easy to try to swoop in and rescue others. Far better, though, for both parties energies to listen and let it sit at least for a night before a bag of solutions is opened.
Stay Positive & Active Resistor, Meet Active Listener
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