Author: Garth Beyer

It’s a simple goal for any relationship regardless of context: sales meeting, happenstance interaction, friend group meetup… you name it.

Stay Positive & There’s More With You Than You Realize

How much did you do for others today compared to yourself?

How much did you listen instead of talk [or ask instead of answer]?

How much did you give versus take?

How much did you understand before you took action?

Stay Positive & Maybe You’re Using The Wrong Cups?

You can search for the right friends. You can find groups of people who share a similar hobby as you. You can source support for a role.

Or…

You can start being a friend to others. You can host a meetup for the hobby you’re passionate about. You can learn a new skill for that role that’s open.

Stay Positive & Which Will It Be Today?

And I really do mean not fun. Not when it’s merely hard or challenging.

When it’s not fun, perhaps it’s time to tag in a friend to help. (Misery loves that company!)

When it’s not fun… it’s time to ask Chatgpt to do the work for you or better yet, inspire you with ways to make the task fun if it can’t do the work for you (hell, maybe ask it even if it can do the work for you).

When it’s not fun, consider reflecting on the why of what you’re doing that isn’t fun. Perhaps you merely forgot.

When something’s not fun; the job isn’t to push through, it’s to reflect and redirect.

Stay Positive & If You’re Going Through Hell…Why?

There’s a spectrum of traffic quality.

There’s traffic on the road. Not fun.

Then there’s website traffic. That’s good stuff.

Then you have IMO the best kind of traffic: foot traffic.

Where on the spectrum do you spend the most time focusing on/creating?

Stay Positive & Beep Beep

By all means, if you can simply notice how big of a sigh you just made, go take a walk.

If you can notice your hands shaking. Blood boiling. Or say out lout “what the fuck.” Go take a walk.

If you’ve hit a road block; stared at your screen without typing for more than 10 minutes; if you’ve retyped that message five times and still have not hit send… go take a walk.

More often than not, you’ll find the path through the hardest stuff starts with a walk around your block.

Stay Positive & Notice When It’s Time To Get Your Steps In

We often hear the phrase “working hard or hardly working,” as if these two states are mutually exclusive. But in reality, it’s not an “either-or” situation. Life’s outcomes are more about cause and effect, best understood through the lens of “if-then” thinking.

Take the saying: “If you work hard, then you can hardly work.” This highlights that hard work leads to creating opportunities where you don’t have to constantly grind. It’s not about choosing between two extremes—hard work versus relaxation—but about understanding how one leads to the other.

In life, “if-then” logic prevails. If you invest in your skills today, then you reap the rewards of efficiency tomorrow. If you build strong relationships, then you’ll find support when needed. It’s a mindset shift from seeing situations as binary to recognizing the flow of actions and consequences.

Embracing this “if-then” approach helps us see how our efforts compound over time, transforming challenges into pathways for success. It’s not about where you are now but where your actions can lead you.

So, the next time someone asks, “Are you working hard or hardly working?” smile and know that if you’re working hard, then the rewards are coming. And if the answer is “hardly working” – recognize that you likely earned it. No guilt necessary.

Stay Positive & What’s Next?