Author: Garth Beyer

Why So Many People Talk About Making A Change But Never Follow Through

Garth Beyer

In simple quick terms, it’s because they only talk about following through with the change.

Now that you’re more curious…

In more thorough terms,

we’re naturally inclined to use our imagination and that definitely works to our advantage. However, too often we jump the gun and focus more on what we are going to do rather than the simple – and much more fun – process of exploring our options.

We talk about the diets we will start. We talk about the idea of moving in with someone new. We talk about quitting our job. We talk about taking a spontaneous trip. We talk and never do.

I’m not suggesting that we don’t talk about what we are going to do (there are many benefits to it), it’s more along the lines of suggesting talking about what we are going to do.

Talking as in a two-way street. To talk about the change you’re going to make, it’s one way.

Deciding you are going to make a change in your life is truly great and usually the tipping point kind of attitude people need to turn their life around or redirect it in the way they want. However, if we explored the options we have; if we discussed with others what making the change will entail; if we imagined a hundred different scenarios regarding the change we want to make, but also the changes we could otherwise make, then we will be much more likely to follow through.

When we think in concrete terms, “I’m going to do this,” our brain subconsciously works to give us reasons not to. As a result, the change we said we were going to make, we don’t.

To follow through with a change you want to make, start talking about it.

 

Stay Positive & You’re Imagination Is Pretty Good At Making What It Thinks Into Reality

Garth E. Beyer

Why It’s So Hard To Connect

Garth Beyer

We wear too many accessories. Too much cologne. Too many patches, badges, and pins. We can’t connect using these mediums. Just because you share the same band as someone, doesn’t make you connected. It’s simply a visual effect, a momentary lapse of our barrier.

Look at what you wear, look at your desktop background, look at your Facebook profile. Trying to connect to someone by asking them their “favourites” is like selfishly stating that you’re going to have a ham sandwich two weeks from now. Just because you will, doesn’t mean you will have someone else to eat a ham sandwich with you. There is no connection in it, or in favorites, emblems, and markers.

The stylization of our lives, in comparison with others, is just a way to calculate the possibility of having a better time in the future – it, in no way, guarantees there WILL be a future.

The internet is playing a dictative role in preventing connections. Yes, you read that right. In one sense, on face value, the internet is corrupting the connection (or in many cases, preventing it completely). It allows us to emblematize ourselves and to show our aspirations, but it’s where all talk and no action happens.

The internet has sucked us into what I plainly call, The Search. The internet strives off of us being on it. And when you think about what we search for on the internet, we can Google a question, but we’re not looking for an answer. No. What we are looking for is a connection to the people who are asking the same question and a connection to the people who are answering that question. (Neither of which – the question or the answer – can provide. They are again, merely symbols providing an illusive connection.)

Because of The Search, we’ve been programmed to think that there will always be someone we can “connect” with better. So we ask different questions, search for different answers, IM this person, comment on this post, etc,. We explore the social networks, follow people, “like” pages, and view profiles to see if the person or group will be a suitable match.

And, of course, once we find someone. We begin our search for the next person or group without creating a real connection.

This in turn, plays an effect on our real world, the unplugged world. For years people would advocate that you never settle for anything but the best: in relationships, in friendships, in partnerships, in business, and so on. Now the current trend, the dominating idea in the physical world, is that there is always someone who you can “connect” with on a greater level.

The Search mentality equated with the online world, has now become the mentality of the unplugged world. This leaves us with the reason why it’s so hard to connect with people.

– continuation of post is open for discussion –

 

Stay Positive & Maintain A Positive-Realist Mindset, The Online World Is Not A Utopia

Garth E. Beyer

Not Cool Robert Frost

Garth Beyer

Robert Frost, who died 50 years ago, was awesome. I’m awesome. But this kid even says it better than Robert Frost and I combined!

Stay Positive & Dance

Garth E. Beyer

Breaking Habit / Tradition / Just Like Old Times

Garth Beyer

All Over Coffee

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Paul Madonna (the name) may make you think of singer/songwriter Madonna, but that Madonna is not nearly as truthful and real as Paul, the creator of the image above.

I had to share this image with you. I want you to realize – much like I did – how entertaining it is. How true, powerful, and, well, funny the actions of the narrator are. It’s a positive feeling.

Now, imagine being the person who throws the linguini. (Maybe you already have.) And you began to think how you can’t do it. You fear getting in trouble. You don’t want to stand out. Everyone’s eyes will be on you. People will judge you.

Yet, you didn’t think that when you originally read the caption to the picture. It wasn’t until you imagined being in that position.

The quickest way to break habit, make a rumpus out of tradition, and prevent just like old times from occurring, is to – well, I gave it away already.

Break habit

Make a rumpus out of tradition

Prevent just like old times

Stop convincing yourself to remain compliant, to be comfortable with mediocrity and normality. If it wasn’t for someone to stand out, Paul may never had the idea to create this image, I would have never seen it, and you would not have been sparked with the thought of creating your own image, your own story. And I’ll tell ya, people love stories.

 

Stay Positive & Just Fun Times

Garth E. Beyer

The Self-Checkup

Garth Beyer

Why do we need to go to the doctor?

Why do we need to see a psychologist?

Why do we need to visit an advisor?

Have you gone to the dentist and they ask you questions like, “how often do you floss?”, “do you feel any discomfort?”, “what toothpaste do you use?”

Why not simply ask yourself the questions you know the professionals will ask you. (And answer them yourself too?) For all answers that you can’t find on the internet, let it be a challenge for you to find the answer.

Ask yourself the hard questions too. The deep questions. The questions that would make you open up, but this time, to yourself.

To be straight forward with my underlying point, asking and answering questions to yourself is to set yourself up to always answer questions other people ask. There are hundreds of truly phenomenal and interesting questions that we are asked, but we never answer them because we feel they are somewhat rhetorical.

What do you want?

What impact do you want to make?

What will be your legend?

How are you going to get there?

What are you truly grateful for? (recommend asking daily)

What help do you need?

Most commonly found in speeches, the questions go ignored. We continue to listen to the point of the question, never to find it. To find the answer, we have to search ourselves, we have to provide the answer.

Next time you get asked a question that you sort of think is rhetorical. Answer it. Invest the time to think it through. Only then will you realize the impact and importance of not only asking the question (to yourself and to others), but to answering it.

 

Stay Positive & Answer Away

Garth E. Beyer

Questions

Garth Beyer

I’ve written a lot about questions, about too many questions, and how questions define us.

Today, yet again, the opportunity to stand out, to define myself, and to show my spirit came through being able to ask a question to a panel of experts.

I am positive that you have been reminded that you never truly know who is in your audience, who is in ear shot, who is watching you. If there is someone you are trying to stand out to, asking the right question can actually leave a larger impact than giving a good answer.

Too often we are not rewarded for our end results. But, always are we acknowledged for our curiosity, our determination, our walk out on that plank.

                                “The best creative solutions don’t come from                                                   finding good answers to the questions that are presented.

They come from inventing new questions.” – Seth Godin

Stay Positive & Believe It Or Not, I’ll Have More Questions For You Tomorrow

Garth E. Beyer