Life Lesson

It’s rare that anyone is giving it their all. There are too many reasons not to. First and foremost it’s far safer to hold a bit in reserve for when we truly need it. That’s natural.

Then there’s all the “un-natural” reasons of fear and willpower and distractions and additions.

All of which rarely have anything to do with the project at hand.

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I recently heard a story about a couple who has sort of a rule in the house. If they raise their voices at eachother, it’s never really about the thing they are raising their voices about.

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All to say, to unlock full capacity and get a little more out of your team or yourself, you need to work outside of the project you’re wanting a little bit more attention to.

Stay Positive & It’ Oxymoronic, Sure, But It Works

It’s impossible to reach everyone.

It’s ineffective to reach no one.

So you have two options to get to your target market.

Who are the some that matter?

Or who are you ruling out?

Of course, it’s quite effective to work on both.

Stay Positive & Get To The Center

Someone was giving advice to those who have been laid off to not fall in love with a company because there’s always that unpredictability.

I simply don’t agree. You ought to love the company you’re working for. You’re investing a significant amount of your week to it.

Would you hold back with your passion projects? Would you hold back with your significant other?

Rather than not love the company…get better at breakups and moving forward.

Best not to diminish the emotional impact you can have for the fact of impermanence.

Stay Positive & Keep Giving It Your All

You’re the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.

Or maybe it’s 1 person.

Or the last 20 people you spent time with.

Of course, the number doesn’t matter as much as the people.

Stay Positive & Quality Over Quantity

“What’s a significant impact you’ve made?” will tell you more than “Send me your resume.”

“How do you do it all?!” is more telling then “What’s your morning routine?”

Open-ended questions are the powerful ones.

So powerful, in fact, they’re worth asking ourselves rather than waiting to be asked.

What do you want your legacy to be?

How have you improved someone’s life?

What’s the biggest leap in experience you’ve made for yourself?

Stay Positive & Know Thy Self

No, not the kind of content that one creates or that this blog is. Content as in a peaceful state of mind.

Becoming content isn’t about getting others to align with your idea or motivation (though it can help).

It’s more about understanding and accepting where everyone else is (in that order, specifically).

You may not need to do more convincing to become content in your work or life; it might just be more listening and empathizing.

Stay Positive & It Takes Two Variables To Become Content

Most of the time, if we were to make direct eye contact with the person we’re frustrated with, the fire fizzles out.

The same goes for most agitations and fears.

Stay Positive & Go Ahead, Make Eye Contact