Life Lesson

One of the most important actions you can get comfortable taking is informing someone (maybe yourself) that what you have might not be for the them.

The gal who grabs a sample and expresses dissatisfaction, tossing the rest. What do you say to her?

The folks who left not filled with joy about your pie tacos; can you come to terms with the fact those pie tacos might not be for them?

The more comfortable we get understanding and noticing those who it’s not for, the more you can focus your energy on those for whom it is for.

Don’t get hung up on convincing someone that they’re wrong and you’re right.

Don’t get hung up on feeling disappointed when someone says “no thanks” to your offer.

You’re just that much closer to getting to those who matter.

Stay Positive & Focus On Who It’s For

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Often through articulation, we get to the gold of a thought.

Or it’s through articulation that we convince someone.

Or we realize we were wrong and don’t quite have all the information.

Or we begin to build a tribe who agrees with us.

Or we get smarter.

None of this happens by having an opinion or retweeting someone’s statement; it happens when we do the emotional labor of articulating what we believe and why we believe it–not to crush others, but to grow ourselves.

Stay Positive & What Do You Say?

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We get aggravated when the person we’re working with shows up as an amateur and not a professional.

We get frustrated when someone isn’t passionate or empathetic about a project and its target.

We get stressed over others not doing what they say they will do in the time frame they say they’ll do it.

We get upset when others don’t act like a true, caring, there-for-you-no-matter-what friend.

It has to make you wonder how many others we’ve aggravated, frustrated, stressed and upset … and how many we are right now?

Stay Positive & Let’s Set The Example

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When something snaps, it’s not often a good thing and we know that.

Yet, we allow our mind to snap from priority to priority, fire to fire, task to task rather than easing it along the way from focus to focus.

Is it worth it?

Stay Positive & Mindful

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There’s no doubt procrastination happens because of fear and worry and the feeling of risk – we despise that feeling.

I’d argue that inaction is as much of a result of us finding pleasure in the pressure as it is to reduce the time we feel uncomfortable.

There’s something invigorating about thrashing. It’s almost as if it’s another way to ignore the little voice in our heads saying we’re not good enough or that we should do something else that doesn’t feel as risky. There’s no time for that. There’s work to be done.

And so we do it. Time and time again, we show up.

The one’s who choose to take advantage of this knowledge will find a way to thrash earlier and more often.

Stay Positive & Sounds Like Its Time To Set Our Own Deadlines

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Fake it and then you make it, right?

What if what we’re faking is the story we tell ourselves about our fears or the feeling of risk – so we do nothing – or that the world is against us again and again.

The narrative we tell about where we’re at is a powerful one, and constantly telling it again and again to ourselves and to others gives it more power until it’s solidified.

We don’t have to fake that reality, though. Better to fake a story of optimism and allow the repetition of doing so strengthen our minds and increase the likelihood of a better future.

It’s worth checking ourselves on what we’re actually faking.

We might be making things worse than they need to be.

Stay Positive & Fake The Good To Make The Good

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Too often we wait to be told what to do, when to do it and how to do it.

We need to give ourselves more agency.

More agency to ask for what we want, reach for it when we want it and to level up in a way that works for us – not a way that the program lays out.

I often make the argument that people are waiting for you to deliver your work, to choose yourself and to rise to the occasion rather than waiting to have a hand reach out.

Perfect example happened today when I received a message from someone with interest in becoming the manager of a brew bar I’m opening.

I haven’t put my openings on indeed yet or reached out to those in the industry who I have kept business cards from or made a timeline or questionnaire for, but I will be meeting with him to discuss the opportunity.

Yes, because he has the base level skills to do the work that matters, but even more so because he has agency not to wait for me to ask for a show of hands.

Stay Positive & Choose Yourself

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