Life Lesson

To effectively overcome fear, you don’t need to do something as large as the fear you feel.

To overcome the fear of flying, you don’t need to book a 14 hour flight to east Asia.

To overcome the fear of writing, you don’t need to write a novel.

To overcome the fear of not being good enough in the work place, you don’t need to come up with the next biggest idea that wins the largest piece of business.

The truth that no one tells you (until now?) is that it only takes a little bit to overcome fear.

A little bit of flying, little bit of writing, a little bit of sharing bold ideas.

The trick is that it needs to be a little bit today, a little bit tomorrow, a little bit the day after that.

Drip by drip by drip.

Stay Positive & Habits Are Stronger Than Your Fears

Photo credit

There are some heroes who are expected to be heroes (parents, firefighters, lifeguards).

There are heroes who make a heroic act once in a lifetime, who happened to be at the right place at the right time and made the right decision.

Then there are the heroes that show up again and again and again. They bring their best selves to all they do, they put glory into their work, they make promises and keep them.

You can be a hero if you choose to be. One might say, we need you to be.

Stay Positive & Don’t Wait For The Bat Signal

Photo credit

It’s quite rare that a marketing tactic you deploy to attract a customer will also get them to return.

A full page ad in an industry magazine might get you some attraction. So will giving away free coffee on opening day. It’s unlikely, however, that people who arrive for those reasons will come back the next day.

The paradox, of course, is that if you focus on a strategy that gets customers to return, you’re far more likely to attract more.

Having a bakery themed t-shirt shop that smells like cupcakes is one you want to bring your friends back to, but doesn’t quite attract you to get in the door in the first place. But that’s okay. One and done isn’t the goal.

It’s less about attracting and returning. It’s more about making the return the attraction.

Stay Positive & Strategically Make Them Feel Like They Belong

Photo credit

There’s an exception to every rule, a caveat to every piece of advice.

For years I’ve been mentioning how people die standing still; that when you don’t try is when you fail; that not choosing is still choosing and it’s doing so poorly.

Alas, the long awaited exception to standing is if you’re empathizing.

It’s harder to empathize when you’re moving forward. To have complete empathy, you have to stop, see the world through someone else’s eyes and smell the roses the way they smell them.

There can be power in a pause if we use it right.

Stay Positive & Stop To Learn, But Don’t Hide

Photo credit

When you put action to ideating, it’s quiet easy.

Our minds love to ideate the new and cool, imagine the unimaginable, and stretch tactics into new ways that reach our target or sell a product.

Much like writing, the real struggle comes with editing.

Editing the ideas down to what’s truly going to impact the business goals, what aligns with the strategic ways you plan to communicate with your customer and what the available funds allow.

It can suck to kill a good idea, but if it doesn’t align with the structure that will generate revenue and generosity with customers, then it’s not on point.

Stay Positive & One Reason Having Many Ideas Is Better Than A Few

Photo credit

One form of hiding is tucking yourself away from the hard work of emotional labor. We hide ourselves from risk and run away from things that spark fear in us as we try to make progress.

Another form of hiding, and an equally scary one, is the hiding we do of our struggles.

The path to our own desired goals and achievements is riddled with struggle and hardship and disappointment of the worst kind – disappointment in ourselves.

And we hide it. We keep the struggles secret. We let on to others that we’re fine, not drowning.

—

I was once told that if I and everyone around me threw our work in a pile, we would go back in and take our own out.

Imagine what we would do if we threw our struggles into a pile.

Take others for them? Take our own and give others the benefit of the doubt? Take any because we’re all struggling with the same problems?

Who knows, but it’s comforting to think about.

Stay Positive & Chances Are You’re Not The Only One

Photo credit

It might take awhile to get your story nailed down.

It’ll take some rehearsing, some feedback from people you trust and criticism from people you don’t to get the story to a place that resonates.

It will definitely take some time and revisions and fluidity to have your story resonate for different groups of people (your family, your employees, your fans, your non-fans, etc.).

All of this considered, not taking control of your story by telling it is the worst form of hiding.

Anyway, if you don’t tell your story, someone else will, and it’s harder to get back control of your story once someone else has hold of it.

Stay Positive & Start Making It Your Own (By Telling It)

Photo credit