Life Lesson

A Not So Gentle Reminder

Garth Beyer

Those who care most about you, don’t care whether you ask for their help, assistance, input, opinion, or need. What I know is that you, I, and most people forget that 99% of the time, the people who care about us are more happy to help us than we ever are being helped.

The two most used reasons you never ask for help:

1. You don’t want to be looked down upon by possibly asking too much.

2. You forget that there are people all around you caring, willing to help.

To the first, realize that you would only ever ask something from someone who cares about you. No one asks someone who doesn’t care about them for something. (If they do, it always goes ignored. The same result as not asking at all.) Then think of all the people that care about you. Don’t measure it. Don’t categorize them by the degree in which they care about you. Don’t group them into those who really care about you because they are family or who don’t care too much because they are just friends. No. The miraculous light that rarely gets shined on the idea of asking for help from those who care about you is that no matter how much they care, they will all be willing to do the same thing for you. Yes, it may take a bit more persuasion and communication of the benefit, but they always will. I could ask my friend that I haven’t seen in years to loan me a grand to fix up my car or I could ask my close uncle. Same result.

To the second: now is when the not so gentle reminder comes in. If you forget that there are people all around you that care about you, it’s not their fault for not showing it. No. It’s your fault for not making it so that they are happy to show they care. It’s your fault for not making them feel good about caring about you. This is where the give-and-take of the world originates. If I ask my friend, who cares about me, to loan me a grand to fix up my car, and I blow $800 at a casino, do you think my friend is going to boast about helping me when I blew most of the money away?

To ask for help is to not only tell yourself, but the person who is helping you too, that you will make them happy that they helped, happy that they cared, and happy that it was all worth it.

The most interesting aspect to asking for help is that it’s one of the strongest paths to growth. Asking for help is far from selfish because in order to reap the benefits, you have to think of yourself and the person helping you. And when you do that, it creates a ripple effect around both of you.

 

Stay Positive & Test It For Yourself, Find Who You Can Help

Garth E. Beyer

Everyone Can Be A Genius

Garth Beyer

Contrary to belief, geniuses isn’t measured by I.Q. It’s not measured by the choices you make on a multiple choice question. It’s not even measured on a scale.

Genius is measured by making continuous efforts. Efforts to grow, efforts to make mistakes, efforts to try and try again until success is reached.

 

Stay Positive & Einstein It Up

Garth E. Beyer

Self-Destruction And The Need For It

Garth Beyer

Unlike most reality shows, Destroy Build Destroy actually sets an extremely positive theme and lesson for those with an open enough mind to see it: monumental creations can be constructed out of the destruction of almost any object.

Take a look at another example: tattooing.

Tattooing, which is a marvelous form of art – yet at the same time, mutilation – is also creation through destruction. The act of being tattooed is destroying your body, your skin. It involves pain, changing an original form, and there is blood (plenty of it) as proof. Yet, after being tattooed, something artistically intrinsic has been printed on your body. Creation through destruction.

We must pay a price for something to be created through destruction. At times it is money, other times it is emotions, personal attachments, relationships, or claimed sentimental objects.

The concept of creation through destruction is clear. If your mind is still open to this theme, can you imagine a way that the destruction of your self could lead to a creation of something greater?

If this concept can be applied to absolutely any object in the world, why wouldn’t it also apply to us, as humans, as people, as moving, being, emotionally thinking living beings.

Can we be destroyed? Yes. But, can we self-destruct? We’re actually pretty good at it.

The real trouble is making it so our self-destruction leads to creation. Most of the time our self-destruction is just that. We will beat ourselves down, criticize our own work, tell ourselves we are not good enough. We will easily toss out our own work, quickly choose someone else before we choose ourselves, we will consciously toss our time away to unproductive matters.

The destroy part, we have that down pat. The creation part though, can use some work. As humans, metaphorically speaking, when our heads get chopped off – or when we chop them off ourselves – we have the ability to grow two back. That involves creation. That involves different perspectives, an open mind, and an incessant need to learn from our mistakes and everything around us.

Contrary to belief, the world is pretty easy on us, especially if we comply, follow orders, and never make a rumpus. In fact, it’s a smooth operation as long as we don’t try to change anything. It’s for this reason that self-destruction is a necessary process for creation, for art, for growth, and most importantly, for experience.

We can let the destruction of our selves ruin us, or we can create something remarkable from it.

 

Stay Positive & Become Part Of The Tribe Of Fireweeds

Garth E. Beyer

For those who don’t know, fireweeds mainly grow only after a forest fire.

Progressional Hierarchy (professional food chain)

Garth Beyer

We constantly view the food chain from left to right or bottom to top, with each animal to the right, triumphing or feasting on the animal to the left in order to survive and grow.

The same goes for the professional food chain, which we try to soften by calling it a hierarchy to establish a sense of “order” rather than “dominance.”

There’s a plot twist to this view of positional establishment – rather a perfect 180 degree twist.

In the professional world, it’s not about feasting on the work of those lower than you. (Although some people decide to take this dark side to development, alas, it pays to recognize that whatever success they acquire is short-lived) In the professional world, it’s about feasting on the work, the success, the ways of growth from those above or to the right of you.

Climbing on the shoulders of giants isn’t a “bad thing” when the giants help you on to their shoulders. It’s what I call the progressional hierarchy of the truly professional world. It is a food chain, if you want to call it that as well, which brings us to greater heights in our lives, in other’s lives, and in the world.

In the wild, growth is developed through the consumption of all that is lower, slower, less necessary, and less important.

In the real world, growth is developed through gathering all the knowledge and experience of those who are above us, bigger than us, better than us, more educated than us, and – dare I say it – more passionate than us.

 

Stay Positive & They Are More Passionate … For Now At Least

Garth E. Beyer

Upon Request

Garth Beyer

I wrote a post on my other website outlying that the best way to write content people want to read is to ask the people what content they would want you to write. This is one of those posts. In fact, this is one of three of those posts.

The First Suggestion: White Sox

Can you guess what the most obliterating concept is to the “self,” to the “individual,” to what makes us, us?

Conformity.

It crowds the planet and persuades anyone wanting to step out of their comfort zone to stay in it. Conformity in its most serious forms can influence people to act terribly and perform nauseous tasks (you can guess what I’m referring to). As all great things (good or bad) do, it all begins with something small, something that people barely notice.

What if I told you that the seed of conformity was white sox? That the simple action of you wearing white socks, having them match, has set you on the path of entanglement and influence since you were a child.

Can you recall the days in school where you were able to wear crazy socks? In fact, it may have even been called “crazy sock day.” Everyone was laughing, enjoying themselves, and more importantly, expressing themselves. What school didn’t tell you was that crazy sock day was just a different way to label be yourself day.

Wear different socks. Wear ankle socks. Wear knee-highs. Wear colored. Polka-doted. Striped. Advertisement socks. Your favorite colored socks. Your friends socks. One dirty sock. No socks. I dare you.

Want to be more of yourself? Go back to the origin of when you began conforming.

 

Stay Positive & Who Know White Sox Could Be That Life Changing

Garth E. Beyer

The Formula For Living A Balanced Life

Garth Beyer

I’ve noticed something recently that is truly hurtful to know.

Most people on this planet spend more time struggling for one thing or another, fighting their battles, drowning in their setbacks than they spend celebrating their triumphs.

It seems like such a simple formula to live a balanced life. The amount you are challenged must be equal to the amount you take enjoyment out of your accomplishments. We fall into this routine of constantly wrangling (trying to reach our goals) that that is what we become good at. People hustle to tussle instead of racing to the beat of their own drum.

Here’s another thought for you. Have you noticed that the most profound things, the most profound realizations in life have been the most simple? Living a balanced life is much like one of them. Simple? Yes. Easy? well that’s a constant struggle. Which is all the more reason to also celebrate a little bit each day.

 

Stay Positive & It’s Okay To Lean More In One Direction (as long as it’s the party side)

Garth E. Beyer