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A simple strategy question with teeth: What will this make them feel?

If your product, your meeting, your message, your “quick update,” your brilliant little initiative does not land in someone’s chest, it does not land at all. People do not remember your logic. They remember the feeling that arrived with it, like a smell that teleports you to a childhood kitchen or a breakup parking lot.

Now take that same idea and turn it inward.

Your to do list is not a moral document. It is a mood menu. And the best way to prioritize it is not by urgency, or optics, or whatever corporate horoscope is trending this week. It is by asking:

At the end of today, what will make me feel fulfilled?

Not “busy.” Not “used up.” Fulfilled. The kind of satisfaction that makes you exhale like you finally took off a too tight belt after a bigger-than-necessary holiday dinner.

Here’s the twist that makes you harder to manipulate and easier to trust.

Before you take an action, send a tiny scout into the future and ask: How will this make them feel? The customer. Your teammate. Your partner. The person who always replies fast. The person who never does. The one who smiles in meetings but goes quiet afterward.

That one question is empathy without the incense.

Stay Positive & Feeling Are The Scoreboard

Your brain is a carnival barker.

It stands at the entrance to every meaningful task, hollering about danger and discomfort, pointing at the Ferris wheel of effort like it is a medieval torture device.

Write the proposal? Terrifying.
Start the workout? Suspicious.
Open the spreadsheet? Might as well open a portal to sadness.

So here is the hack. You do not “get motivated.” You do not “swallow the frog.” You do not perform morning heroics to prove you are worthy of your own goals.

You just do two minutes.

Two minutes is the smallest possible down payment on a better life. It is so tiny your excuses look ridiculous standing next to it. Two minutes of writing turns into a sentence, which turns into a paragraph, which turns into the weird realization that the task was not a monster. It was a sock on the floor wearing a monster mask.

And to build on this. Reward the two minutes more than you reward completion.

Completion is often a lottery ticket. Two minutes is a paycheck.

Celebrate the act of showing up. Celebrate the ignition, not the arrival.

Do two minutes today and you will never need to stage a daily frog eating ceremony again.

Stay Positive & When You Build A Habit Of Starting, Finishing Becomes A Side Effect

There’s a weird little magic trick that happens in meetings, on stages, in DMs, and in the fluorescent ecosystem of “quick syncs.”

Two people can say the exact same sentence.

Same words. Same idea. Same potential to change a decision, a budget, a timeline, a life.

And yet one lands like a brick through a window, and the other lands like a coupon for window cleaner.

The difference is not intellect. It is not seniority. It is not even charisma, which is mostly just confidence wearing cologne.

It’s conviction.

Confidence is the invisible mic you’re holding. People don’t just hear what you’re saying. They hear how certain you are that it’s worth hearing.

That’s why the world keeps rewarding the person who delivers a mediocre point like it’s a prophecy. Meanwhile, a brilliant idea gets introduced like an apology: “This might be dumb, but…”

If you want impact, you don’t need to inflate your ego. You need to commit to your delivery. Plant your flag. Own one clean sentence. Say it like you’d bet your next paycheck, your next promotion, or your next pint of barrel aged stout on it.

Confidence is not arrogance. Arrogance is loud because it’s fragile. Confidence is steady because it did the homework.

Stay Positive & Stop Delivering Your Word Like It’s A Fortune Cookie; Deliver It Like A Decision… With Conviction

Group work has a natural hobby: turning into a reality show.

Someone’s “just brainstorming.” Someone’s “just flagging a thought.” Someone’s “just making sure we consider the edge case where a raccoon becomes the CFO.”

And then, two hours later, you have a Google Doc full of confetti and no parade route.

The antidote is obnoxiously simple. Name the goal. Not the vibe. Not the intention. Not the “north star” that sounds like a startup candle scent. The actual goal. The thing you are trying to produce, decide, ship, fix, or prove.

A real goal is an anchor. Drop it in the water and suddenly the meeting stops drifting into the warm, foggy ocean of opinions. It stops being about who said what, who’s loud, who’s quiet, who’s “owning it,” who’s allergic to responsibility. It becomes about the mission. The mission is wonderfully rude. The mission does not care about your ego, your title, or your carefully curated anxiety.

When the goal is clear, you get a superpower: the clean “no.”

Not a political no. Not a “maybe later” no. A loving, adult, mission based no.

Here’s the pro tip that saves careers and calories: pressure test every idea with one sentence.

“If we do this, it directly helps the goal because ___.”

If you can’t fill in that blank without doing verbal gymnastics, the idea is a tourist. It’s visiting the meeting for the snacks. Escort it out.

Yes, you can argue that almost anything “supports the goal.” A new slide deck. A new process. A new font. A new meeting to plan the meeting that will someday introduce the meeting. Humans are talented lawyers for mediocre work.

Don’t be a lawyer. Be a bouncer.

Chase the clearer thing. The sentence you can say without flinching. The move that doesn’t need defending because it’s obviously forward.

When the goal is defined, the work stops begging for approval and starts earning momentum. And momentum, unlike your calendar invites, actually gets things done.

Stay Positive & Hell, Start The Damn Meeting, Email, Teams Call With The Mission Statement

The first lie the hard days tell you is that they’re permanent.

They’re not. They’re weather.

And like weather, they can be loud, dramatic, and absolutely convinced they’re the main character. The wind throws furniture around in your brain. The sky presses down like a deadline. The forecast reads: “Mostly miserable with a 90% chance of questioning every decision you’ve ever made.”

Here’s the trick I have to remind myself often (and why I’m writing it here now…): you don’t need sunshine to keep moving. You need motion.

Momentum is the most underrated form of magic. It’s not glamorous. It doesn’t arrive wearing a cape. It shows up in scuffed sneakers and says, “Okay, we’re doing something today.” Even if that something is tiny. Even if it’s ugly. Even if it’s mostly fueled by spite and cold coffee. (2 minutes is a great starting commitment btw.)

When the going gets tough, your mind will demand a map. A guarantee. A motivational orchestra swelling at just the right time.

Ignore it.

Hard days aren’t asking you to be inspired. They’re asking you to be loyal. Loyal to the version of you who started this thing when your eyes were bright and your plans were bigger than your fear.

Hard days aren’t permanent. You control the weather.

Stay Positive & You’re Not A Weather Vane

Most meetings end the same way: someone says “anything else?” and the room performs a synchronized shrug like a school of fish pretending they did their homework.

Here’s the better move.

Right before the meeting ends, aim the flashlight where the treasure usually hides:

“Before we wrap, what do you think, [Name]?”

Not as a pop quiz. Not as a trap. As an invitation.

Because the quiet person is often quiet for a reason. They are processing. They are watching the whole chessboard while everyone else is arguing about a pawn. They might be new. They might be tired of repeating themselves in rooms that don’t listen. Or they might be holding the one sentence that saves you three weeks of rework.

That question does three things fast:

1. It signals that silence is not invisibility.
2. It upgrades the meeting from performance to participation.
3. It catches the real risks before they grow teeth.

Do it kindly. Give them a beat. If they say “I’m still thinking,” great. Ask: “What would you want us to consider before we decide?”

Then watch how the meeting gets smarter, and how people start showing up like their brain was actually invited.

Stay Positive & It’s The Difference Between Running A Meeting And Leading A Meeting

Amidst an incredibly stressful event, a leader of mine said, “If you’re going to own it, fucking own it.”

“Said” is kind of putting it lightly.

Everyone nodded like that was a plan and they better get their asses into gear. Another broke down in tears.

But “own it” is not a plan. It’s a vibe. And vibes are great for playlists, terrible for execution.

The frustrating thing about owning something is that it’s wildly subjective.

To one leader, ownership means “run the meetings.” To another, it means “anticipate risks, align stakeholders, ship results, and read my mind.” Same words. Different religion. If you do not define it, you are not delegating. You are gambling.

Leaders: if you want ownership, stop handing out fog.

Hand out a container instead.

Here’s what “own it” should include, out loud, in plain language:

• Outcome: What does success look like, specifically? What changes in the world?
• Scope: What is in bounds, what is out of bounds, and what are the edge cases?
• Authority: What decisions can they make without asking? What decisions require a check in?
• Resources: Time, budget, tools, people. What is actually available?
• Stakeholders: Who needs to be informed, consulted, or won over?
• Cadence: How often do you want updates and in what format?
• Quality bar: What is “good enough” vs “exceptional” vs “not acceptable”?

And for the person being told to “own it,” here are the questions that turn fog into traction:

1. “What does done look like to you?”
2. “What are the top two risks you’re worried about?”
3. “What decisions do you want me to make solo?”
4. “What should I never surprise you with?”
5. “If we’re off track, how will we know early?”

and my favorite…

6. If shit hits the fan, do you have my back?

Ownership isn’t a personality trait. It’s a contract.

Write it down. Say it twice. Then let people actually own something real.

Stay Positive & Leave The Rorschach Test For Jackie Haley In The Watchmen