A little set back isn’t much of a problem on it’s own. It’s little. It’s a small hump. You’ll drive over it and onward.
It’s the series of little set backs that become the problem.
When you cut a corner or skip getting confirmation or go with an old and used – I don’t know – lawn mower, you’re not just signing up for an impending little set back; you’re signing up for that set back to join the others.
There’s no preventing little set backs altogether, but there is the option to manage the quantity of them.
Before you’re about to lean into a meaty project or tough conversation, take a deep full breath.
Before any panick or worry takes over, take a deep full breath.
Before you’re about to get news you’re unsure about, take a deep full breath.
Before you hit submit on your social post, take a deep full breath.
A deep full breath is the pause we all need; it’s the action that centers us and either adds energy to move forward or offers us the second to pull back before a mistake is made.
No need for an app or a friend to always be by your side (though they are both helpful).
Hearing those words usually defines a barrier or disconnect.
What was intended wasn’t received.
The narrative is being told differently than we hoped for.
It’s usually the result of closed-mindedness.
Someone didn’t have the guts or care to get diverse feedback on the platform, people or way of doing business before it was shared.
The solution isn’t more spin; it’s restarting in an effort to build something more meaningful; something that makes it clear you/the business/the brand cares.
In asking others for help, one can’t expect them to start, to build the foundation, to set the stage.
That work is on us.
But when we do it; when we invest the time and energy in setting others up to help us, it’s ridiculous how much more help, ideas, thoughts and care we get.
Then again it makes sense.
It’s easier to care more when we can tell how much it matters to someone.
Just yesterday I asked a coworker how the heck she was managing the workload + home life – and I only knew half of what she was working on and justthat was a lot.
“One more thing and I’m going to break down and cry. I had my melt down yesterday and now I’m just trying to take it one thing at a time.”
Shit.
Ask about others and listen. It not only makes our problems seem smaller, but it gives us motivated compassion to do work that helps others.
And as ol’ Zig always said. “The key to having everything you want in life is to help enough people get what they want in life.”