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“You should call them back.”

“You should post more on LinkedIn.”

“You should really try Pilates.”

Ah yes, the high priest of practicality has entered the room.

When someone keeps wielding the word should, what they’re really doing is trying to give meaning shape. They want the world to feel less slippery. Should is a comfort blanket stitched from control and care. It’s not always a bad thing. It’s a human thing. But how you engage with a should-sayer determines whether the exchange turns into a duel or a dance.

First, the recco is to resist the urge to armor up. When they say, “You should,” hear instead, “I care enough to think about you.”

Let that wash over you for a second. Then nod. Smile. And ask why.

That single word turns commandments into conversations.

Next, don’t counter should with won’t. That’s W40 on a small matchstick.

Try might.

“I might do that.”

It keeps the air open. It’s oxygen for curiosity, not judgment.

Then, you’re reading this so I know you like to go the extra mile with things… throw a gentle mirror back their way.

Ask what they’ve done lately that replaced a should. It’s amazing how quickly the tone shifts when everyone realizes how hard it is to follow their own gospel.

Stay Positive & Let Should Point To Somewhere New, But You Still Decide To Walk There

There was once a team who believed salvation lived in the next quarter’s budget. They prayed to the gods of “headcount” and “integration,” tossing offerings of coffee and panic into the chat abyss. Every week they lit candles under the banner of “If only.”

If only we had more people.

If only we had more time.

If only we had that one perfect platform that connects everything and everyone and probably makes lattes too.

But then someone… probably the person who still has an intern-like spirit, asked, “What if we already have everything we need?”

The room fell silent, the way a room does when an inconvenient truth enters without knocking.

The truth, of course, is that most of what we need to get where we’re going isn’t something we can expense. It’s the courage to say I don’t know. It’s the grace to say I’ll help you anyway. It’s the magic of three brains humming on one wavelength, even when one of them is exhausted and the other is hangry.

The tech stack won’t hold your hand when the project implodes. The headcount won’t comfort you when the campaign flops. But camaraderie will. Prioritization will. Vulnerability will.

Maybe that’s the greatest productivity hack of all: stop shopping for better tools and start building better trust.

If only you had everything you needed to make an impact, hit your numbers, and who knows, maybe get a promotion out of it.

Stay Positive & That’s The Spirit

Some mornings the world feels like honey. Other days it’s like honey spilled on a shag carpet. That’s the difference between a nudge and a sludge.

A nudge is the universe giving you a sly wink. It’s your toothbrush grinning at you from the sink, your gym shoes waiting by the door like loyal dogs. A nudge doesn’t force. It seduces. It makes the better thing feel like the natural thing.

Sludge is what happens when the universe forgets to oil its gears. It’s the menu that takes twelve clicks to find. The form you print, sign, scan, and upload into oblivion. Sludge is resistance disguised as procedure.

Not all sludge is villainous, though. Sometimes we need a little stickiness to keep us from slipping into stupidity. The waiting period before a major purchase, the pause before sending that rage-soaked email…tiny clots of wisdom meant to save us from ourselves.

The art, if you can call it that, is knowing when to play which card. Too much nudge and life becomes a mindless current. Too much sludge and it becomes a swamp.

The world doesn’t need more rules. It needs more gardeners of friction. People who know when to smooth the path and when to make it just rough enough to wake us up.

Stay Positive & Sludge And Smell The Roses

Imagine for a moment that you’ll stop trying to make a dent in the universe. The hammer falls lighter, the rhythm steadier. You stop swinging for thunder and start listening for the hum beneath the work.

When you create without the hunger for influence, the ego starves just enough for honesty to grow.

You paint, write, code, serve, sell…not to ripple across the world, but to ripple across yourself. And funny thing: people feel that. They can smell the unforced. They crave it like fresh bread after a long fast from meaning.

Most of us chase impact like it’s oxygen. But influence is a side effect. Not a fuel source.

When you do the work for the sake of being inside it… when your hands are more curious than your metrics dashboard… that’s when the universe starts to whisper back.

The world doesn’t need you to try to matter. It just needs you to mean it.

Stay Positive & Meaning Over Matter

There’s a peculiar magic that happens when you force yourself to do more. Not the hollow kind of more that clutters your calendar or fattens your to-do list like a Thanksgiving turkey, but the kind of more that quietly changes how you do things.

When you push your limits, something inside you starts rearranging furniture. Your brain, stubborn as an old mule, begins to realize that “impossible” was mostly just bad posture. You start stacking experiences, not tasks. Each new effort adds weight, sure, but it also changes your shape.

Doing more teaches you to move differently.

You stop reaching for comfort and start reaching with intent. Your time thickens, like a stew simmered too long, richer with every repetition.

The late nights and awkward attempts begin to form a rhythm that hums under your skin. You start noticing what matters, what doesn’t, and my personal favorite (especially as someone who’s jaw is usually hanging on the ground because I regularly bite off more than I can chew…)what changes when you stretch just a little past reason.

Point about the point? It isn’t volume. It’s velocity.

It’s not doing more things. It’s becoming someone who can handle more being.

Each extra thing you take on. You know, one more idea, one more risk, one more honest attempt. It rewires how you approach the rest. You become sharper, looser, less precious. You start doing less for approval and more for momentum.

So here’s the strange arithmetic of progress:

The more you do – > the more how you do it matters.

And the more how you do it changes – > the more you realize you were never chasing more at all… You were chasing meaning.

Stay Positive & This Is When More Is Actually More

There’s a strange religion humming in the fluorescent glow of home offices everywhere. Its altar? A glowing rectangle. Its gospel? The PowerPoint presentation. Google slides. Canva rectangular templates.

We’ve all seen it. The sermon of bullet points. The slow unfurling of better-than-clip-art dreams and gradient-laced promises. Each slide a new verse in the corporate psalm book, chanted to the gods of “alignment” and “clarity.”

But here’s the heretical thought: Does any of it actually move the world forward?

Or is PowerPoint just the modern campfire where we pretend to make meaning out of data, while secretly praying no one asks the one question we can’t answer?

There’s beauty in a good deck. It can clarify, simplify, persuade. A tight narrative with the right visuals can shift a room. The right slide at the right time can spark revolutions of thought.

But most decks? I’d guess you’re experience with them has been like a theater performance. Dress rehearsals for ideas that never make it to the street. We click through slides like pilgrims trudging through ritual, convinced that progress lives in transitions and animations and sweet sweet graphics that highlight output but hide the heart behind it.

Maybe PowerPoint isn’t the villain.

Maybe it’s a mirror.

Maybe the real question isn’t should we stop making presentations—but why do we need them so badly in the first place?

Are we afraid to speak without them?

Are we addicted to the illusion of control they offer?

Or are we just scared that without the slides, our ideas might have to stand naked in the room—vulnerable, questioned, human? Afraid that it becomes about us instead of about the ideas.

Next time you open PowerPoint, pause before you click “New Slide.”

Ask yourself: Am I trying to share something that will shift a mind?

Or am I just painting the walls of the same room I’ve always stood in?

Because the world might not need another decked out room of wallpaper, but another set of humans looking each other in the eyes.

Stay Positive & On Second Thought, Maybe I Should Have Made This Post A Slide Deck

Your muscles don’t grow if you never lift. Neither does your mind.

So challenge a thought.

Listen to a philosopher until your head tilts.

Argue kindly with someone you love.

Ask an AI to prove you wrong.

It’s not about winning. It’s about keeping your brain from turning into a couch.

Stay Positive & How Many Sets Are You Doing Today?