In The Box Podcast

Episode 10: Verbal Commitment, Purpose, Moving On And More – Podcast

Garth Beyer

On this episode of In The Box Podcast, we talked about the mental battle of doing something new, how important verbal commitment is, why people settle, the purpose of life, holding on to your pass vs moving on, and more on self-worth. Enjoy

Episode 10: Verbal Commitment, Purpose, Moving On And More

New/Change – what is the biggest impediment to someone doing something new or changing?

Verbal commitment – How permanent or official should a verbal commitment be?

Settling – In one sentence, why do people settle?

Purpose – What is the purpose of life?

Moving on – What’s your take on moving on versus holding your past with you?

Self-worth – How can someone increase their self-worth or solidify it?

 

Stay Positive & Your Worth It

Respect

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You don’t gain respect by creating something special. Nor by being better than someone else.

You gain respect by giving, by connecting, by sharing a moment.

During a panel event I held the other night, the panelists were asked what was one habit they’ve developed that they consider a secret; something little they do that others may not.

One panelist said every single day for years she has said hi to everyone in the office.

Familiarity breeds respect.

It’s inevitable you’ll share a conversation at one point. It’s inevitable you’ll give them something you have an extra of. It’s inevitable you’ll connect with them on a recent article you’ve read that made you think of them.

You can bet she said more than hi, but hi is the best place to start.

 

Stay Positive & Have You Started?

The Hardest Part

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is doing.

But, it’s the only way we learn, only way we grow, only way we get better.

Confidence is built from being timid multiple times.

Great design comes from a lot of poor design.

You can label, criticize, and rate whatever you create. Heck, you can even crumple it up and throw it away, but you can’t get rid of the fact you’ve learned something, you’ve grown better, that you’re more self-confident in maybe, just maybe, doing it again.

 

Stay Positive & But This Time, Doing It Better

Those You Can’t Convince

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The naysayers, the critics, parents, your boss – all the people you can’t please, can’t convince, can’t alter their worldview, can be ignored.

The naysayers can be shunned. The critics given the cold shoulder. The comments from parents, bosses, and those you thought were friends can be tossed in a void.

There are a lot of non-believers out there.

You’re not required to respond to them, acknowledge them, or, worse yet, believe them.

 

Stay Positive & Don’t Prove Others Wrong, Merely Prove Yourself Right

Work That Matters Test

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I catch myself, admittedly often, not doing work that matters, work that makes a difference, work that’s risky.

There are a few indicators. Either I am texting someone or my phone is faced up so I can see if someone texts me. I might have a Facebook tab open. I might still be signed into my gmail account, instead of a client’s, for ease of responding to an email faster.

It took awhile to recognize these moments because they’re so small. And hey, I’m staying connected. It’s a good thing I replied to her email likely faster than anyone else she’s emailed today…right?

Do work that matters. Notice when you’re not.

 

Stay Positive & Raise The Stakes

An Answer To Meetings Running Past Time

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Meetings rarely end when they’re supposed to. Ever wonder what to do about it?

Why not state the meeting will end 5 minutes earlier than you originally thought. Instead of 5:00 p.m., tell everyone it will end at 4:55 p.m.

1) Cushion is better than being rushed

2) When the organizer also keeps time (perhaps by setting an alarm) wrap up doesn’t go past 5:00 and they don’t feel as rushed to finish.

3) Knowing a meeting won’t last for a full hour, attendees will be encouraged to tighten conversation, ask the important questions, and won’t feel bad for staying an extra two minutes, because no one is going to plan something else at 4:57 p.m.

The bad side to this 5-min grace period: people may still view it as “we’re getting out 5 minutes early” and if they don’t get out at 4:55, they may get frustrated.

Then again, all it really comes down to is awareness. For effective meetings, you don’t need to follow this tip, you merely need to think about meeting effectiveness, talk to others about managing their time better, and put it at the front of your mind when you walk into a meeting.

 

Stay Positive & Aware

Risk Being Wrong

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I would say the most number of blog posts I’ve deleted instead of publishing were ones where I predicted things.

Predict the success of Airbnb? Predict the future of social media? Predict the future of mobile apps, eBooks, drones? Who am I to make those predictions?

Since those mistakes (the deleting, not the predicting), I’ve realized that predictions are meant to make us think about things differently. Very few who predict are right, but those who are made dozens, if not hundreds, of failed predictions before hand.

The most interesting thing is that those who predict, we’re right early. They took the risk.

If I write about how successful Airbnb will be now, well, that simply doesn’t make sense.

Predict. Try. Think about things differently.

After all, rarely does anyone notice when you’re wrong, and if they do, rarely do they care that you’re wrong. All that it takes is to be right once. And when you’re finally right? Who cares. Being right isn’t the point.

 

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