Tooting My Own Horn

Today marks two years blogging.

Earlier I had the crazy idea to write about – as upsetting as it sounds – how we need to be more like scientists doing experiments on lab rats. We need to monitor ourselves, check where we are going, ask why, ask how we feel today, evaluate how far we’ve come, how we got to this point and where we hope to be going.

Ironically, blogging has helped me do just that and then some. It’s given me the chance to share what I’ve learned, what mistakes I’ve made* and not only inspire other’s, but each day, when I write, also inspire myself.

As humble as I am, I don’t mind saying I’m proud of myself.

Ya know, it’s a shame really… that lab rats can’t pat themselves on the back. We owe it to ourselves to toot our own horns from time to time.

 

Stay Positive & Toot Toot

Garth E. Beyer

*I don’t share stories of my mistakes so that you don’t make them yourself. Mistakes are what makes your life yours.

They Are All Lies

Lies that you tell yourself after seeing someone being successful or remarkable:

They were born with more talent than me

They are fearless

I can’t make the same committment that they make

They have more time than me

They don’t have to worry about x, y, or z like I do

I would have to get into Harvard if I wanted to end up like them

It’s so easy for them

They’ve had all the support from the beginning

They never fail

 

Stay Positive & Quit Lying To Yourself

Garth E. Beyer

The Problem With Advice, Suggestions, And Orders

It’s one thing to give them out to someone; to think critically before doing so with a selfless goal in mind.

It’s another to be given advice, suggestions or orders from someone. Most of what people recommend, suggest or oder 659315_5ba9794c89you to do is what they would have liked to do themselves. In essence, they are attempting to live and learn from the experience through you. It’s a great way to learn, don’t get me wrong, but it’s not a great way for you to learn.

So many of us have a curious tendency when it comes to decision-making, especially when its other people making the decisions. We’re more risky when giving advice to someone because we’re not the ones who will follow through with it, receiving consequences and all.

I’ve even given advice that I would never do for the single reason of wanting to know how it would have turned out. (Full disclosure: We were both interested in what would happen if he took my advice.)

Quit plainly, we’re reckless when it comes to advice, suggestions, and orders.

Which is why I’m telling you of a solution to it. Ask.

 

Stay Positive & Ask, Ask, Ask

Garth E. Beyer

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All Or Nothing

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While I don’t think having the mindset of “all or nothing” throughout your entire life is the best way to live, it definitely benefits those who have extremely busy lives.

If you feel overwhelmed, your to-do list is too long or you have a habit of saying yes whenever anyone asks something of you, then try spending a couple of weeks with an all or nothing mindset.

This forces you to think critically about an opportunity and the results of it. The mindset  encourages priorities and immediacy. Best of all, it gives you a good reason to say no. It’s one thing to reject a request because you don’t want to do it. It’s a whole other thing to reject a request because you’ve committed to following all the way through with something else.

In a world full of multitaskers, those with all or nothing mindsets really stand out.

 

Stay Positive & Know What To Cut

Garth E. Beyer

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How I Do It (personal)

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About six months ago, someone really close to me asked me how I do all that I do?

That wasn’t the first time I was asked; almost anyone that cares enough to hear my story and ask what I’m up to ends up also asking me how I do all that I do.

And here is what I figured out this morning (six months after truly being asked how I do all that I do):

I am willing to invest my time in doing something that might not pay off.

That’s all it comes down to.

I used to be ignorant and think that people didn’t want to be successful, that they would come up with excuse after excuse to not become successful (including not knowing what success is to them).

Really it’s that they (you?) don’t want to invest the time in doing something that might not pay off. That scares the shit out of us.

So that’s how I do all that I do. And if you want a piece of advice on how to invest time in doing something that might not pay off? Decide that you want it more than you’re afraid of it failing.

 

Stay Positive & Hopefully Reading My Blog Will Help You Decide

Garth E. Beyer

Stories That Leave You With Goosebumps

As it goes nowadays, don’t ask where I saw what I’m going to tell you I saw because I don’t remember. All I remember is that I watched a video wherein there was a large glass phone booth placed in the city (likely NYC) and it had a cord running from it to a headset that was on a pedestal about 15 feet away.

There was a backdrop behind the pedestal and instructions that someone was supposed to enter the phone booth and speak into the phone and another person was supposed to listen 15 feet away. The point was to tell the other person how you really feel about them or thank them for something. What I heard people say to each other was touching and gave me goose bumps.

The group Improv Everywhere did something similar to this by placing a megaphone on a lectern that had a sign on it “SAY SOMETHING NICE.”

Then there is StoryCorps which combines the two, adds even more emotion to it by having the people right next to each other, and takes out the visual element of it. One particular story I listened to gave me even more goosebumps than when I watched the phone booth video.

The story of a kid, Brian Lindsay, who was struck by a van while riding his bike talked years later with the paramedic, Rowan Allen who was there at the scene.

The story was real, you can hear the voice, you can hear them say what was on their minds. Most stories that you read, they don’t tell you what they were thinking and if they do the emotion behind it is very narrow. With audio, it is more emotionally evocative and powerful because hearing the voices makes the story personal, human, and allows you to feel all the emotions – you can hear the laughter, you can hear the sarcasm, you can hear the passion in what they say.

Now think of reading a story or reading a text – you can’t register more than one emotion. “Is this person being sarcastic?” “Are they serious?” It leaves so much of the emotion to interpretation and if there’s one thing that’s difficult to put into words, it’s how people feel.

The main point on that is this: if you read a story wherein a person writes “I can’t put into words how I feel.” Then it’s a contradiction because they just did. But if you hear a story wherein a person says “I can’t put into words how I feel.” They really can’t, you get the emotion from it, you get the sincerity.

There’s a reason why it’s suggested that you write like you would speak. So people can hear you.

Before You Cut It

Ask yourself if you can create, provide, develop or be something better.9608313839_cd579fc4d3

If you can’t then you have no reason to cut it.

If you can, then you have every reason to create, provide, develop or be it.

Most ideas don’t need to be cut, they need to be made into better ideas.

Whole loaf bread is the only exception. Cutting it actually was a better idea.

 

Stay Positive & Carbohydrates For Thought

Garth E. Beyer

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