One Big Thank You

Many of you are showing up on my website today because of what has transpired on Facebook. Even taking the moment to transition from there to my website means a lot to me. Dare I say thank you again? Of course. Thank you.

I’m not one for mass, if you read my work, you definitely know that. However, I owe all of my past time readers that have gone off and made a ruckus and no longer read my material, all the regular readers, and all the new ones maybe stopping by for the first time today, one huge thank you!

I wouldn’t be able to find it in my soul to write as much as I do, to risk as much as I do, to fail as much as I do, if none of you were there for me. If we could break down the box that makes GarthBox and turn it into a road, it would be a two-way road. For all that you give to me, I will do my ultimate best to give back 10fold.

GarthBox is a place for people to step in and step out whenever they would like. What I’m grateful for are all the impacts each of you make when you step in the box. I don’t even need to have met you for you to have made the impact. As a reader, you make an impact.

As much as I can go on, I just want to thank all of you for your continual support, your constant encouragement, and for giving me a reason to write.

 

Stay Positive My Friends

Garth E. Beyer

We Want…

We want what when we want it. The real trouble is that it’s extremely hard to convince ourselves that we really want it now when it’s so easy (and illusively harmless) to put it off till later.

People think the problem is choosing what you want. It’s not. We can always find somethign we want. The real insight and issue lies in that there’s never as much risk in wanting something than in wanting it now.

Which is supposed to be a good enough reason to want it at a later time.

It’s not.

 

Stay Positive & Hold Yourself To The Now, Not The Later, Soon, Or Sometime

Garth E. Beyer

Using The Force And Letting The Force Use You

You need to force yourself to find something your passionate about, choose not to have a choice, and move forward.

In doing so, you’ll quickly find that the force you used to become passionate about something is then relayed back to you in the form of focus, more passion, understanding, and growth. In other words, the force uses you.

The force is a cycle which is continuous … so long as you add to it.

I’ve forced myself to be passionate about all forms of communication, specifically in the fields of media, journalism, and PR. (It’s been so long, and I believe that I’ve brainwashed myself, but I’m sure there was a point when I really didn’t know what I wanted to do, what I wanted to major in, or where I wanted to be in 20 years. But, by using the force, I’ve come to find my niche.) In doing so, in brainwashing myself, in using the force, I’ve become fascinated with absolutely anything related to communication. Find a way to turn me off, I dare you. Anyway…

This has benefited me immensely and never crippled me in any way. Using the force is like putting on a special pair of glasses. Now, all that you see is filtered through the force. I relate everything; whether it is history, art, politics, finances, or whatever, to communication. I’ve found a way to enjoy anything and everything because I view it in relation to communications. By forcing yourself to have appreciate and a passion for one field, it allows you to be passionate about anything in regards to it when it comes your way.

If it doesn’t make sense to you yet, let’s apply it to the workplace.

We have our jobs that we may or may not love to do (note to self: if not, go get it). In our jobs, there are dozens of tasks each month or each week that we don’t really enjoy doing. But, you will easily find, so long as you are forcing your passion for all areas of your job (the good and the bad) doing those tasks which normally you wouldn’t like to do can become enjoyable. In fact, once you force yourself, you’ll find that it will require less and less force as time goes on.

It’s not about biting the bullet, it’s about being able to enjoy its flavor.

Which sometimes requires force.

 

Stay Positive & I Have To Say It: May The Force Be With You

Garth E. Beyer

Geoffrey Baym describes three eras of broadcast television news

High-modern broadcast television was a progressive route of objective journalism. Salant insisted that, “our job is to give people not what they want but what they ought to have.” This entailed a rationalized approach to reporting that prioritized professionalism. High-modern broadcast was about providing objective and relevantly important information. The aesthetic entertainment portion was left to others channels and outlets. Given Cronkite was the leader of the high-modern era, his sign off says more about the era than any summary, “that’s the way it is” – narrowness, accuracy, relevancy, and as objective as someone reporting information could be.

Postmodern broadcast television developed with the trend that news producers would report to attract rather than inform audiences; instead of telling it the way it is, they told it the way the audience most wanted to hear it. In a sense, you can relate this postmodern broadcast television to the yellow journalism of newspapers. Their goal was to sell political ideologies and agendas, not constructive and relevant democratically engaging information.

Neo-modern broadcast television is a new way of pursuing the old goal of public information and democratic accountability by providing a wide variety of public figures discussing a vast range of issues. The information is provided through different communicational mediums – satirical, dialogue, blatant criticism, and hurtful truth. In addition, neo-modern broadcast makes the audience feel as if they are participating in the news.

In regard to social change, what matters isn’t so much the social change that occurred during the high-modern and postmodern eras, simply because they are in the past and have already been documented. What needs to be observed is the social impact and restructuring that the neo-modern broadcast television, and neo-modern journalism in general, is creating. Steve Colbert and John Stewart are the avant-garde of the neo-modern broadcasting. Because there is an equal draw of information and entertainment in their forms of broadcasting, it creates a different way for people to talk about and engage with politics. The audience is now more skeptical of what is truly going on than ever before (in a positive way!). Their desire to have news deconstruct political situations that they want to be involved in allows the public to perceive their political movements on a point-by-point bases, giving them simplicity of understanding as well as simplicity in being involved. However, this type of neo-modern era is to, in the words of John Stewart, “provide one little bit of context,” to help people see a “larger picture” than they might otherwise. Adding my own belief into the mix now, I feel that the neo-modern era of journalism appeals to a majority of previously unconcerned citizens. I think that this new age journalism is about getting citizens concerned, interested, and intrigued about civic duties and democracy without them knowing it. Then, from observance of friends who began watching neo-modern broadcast television, the audience soon enough expands their mindsets and pursues more postmodern and, more importantly, high-modern broadcast. This plays a part with what John Stewart said. Stewart’s type of broadcast is meant to be one piece of the civically engaged citizens puzzle. There are negative connotations with it because it just so happens to be the first puzzle piece in this age of millennials. But the first puzzle piece is still political involvement.

Subscription

I’ve made the decision to close off my blog to subscriptions. In particular, email/RSS feed subscription and for two particular reasons.

Yes, a blogger absolutely benefits from having subscribers. That’s all good and great, but by subscribing, you – the subscriber – benefit less. What?!

I used to be subscribed to about a dozen blogs and I would get updates on them every few days. After only a couple of months, I found myself deleting the emails; some without opening to see what the newest posts were about. The reason for this leads to the first reason why I closed off subscription to my blog.

I quit needing their particular form of motivation. I stopped needing their information, their persuasion, their enthrallment. In other words, while I never stopped loving their blogs, I found myself reading them for the sake of just reading them and not for the sake of them helping me or bringing me to make some action.

I don’t want you (my readers) to enter this lull or habit. In a sense, it can even be self-defeating; one is more interested in learning how to improve their life than they are in improving it. If it’s between you taking a risk to do something in your life and reading my post for the day, well, you know which one I would pick.

The second reason for ending subscriptions I only realized a couple of weeks ago after someone said, “I’ve been on your website. I don’t read everything you write, but I hop on their every now and then.” I went on to tell them that they shouldn’t feel guilty for not reading every day, I don’t write so the same person can read every single post. I have this idea that I am simply here when you need me. I’m not going to force you to show up by making you feel guilty or reminding you to read my content through subscriptions. If you don’t show, I’ll give you the benefit of the doubt and say that it’s probably best you didn’t.

If you want to read what I have written, then you can type www.garthbox.com in your web bar or add me to your favorites bar. I’m looking for connections, not subscriptions.

 

Stay Positive & Let’s Connect (@)

Garth E. Beyer

Are You Up For It? (A Bit About The Lizard Brain)

When you consider taking a risk, taking an action for something you want, you have twenty seconds to act before the lizard brain fires up. Once the lizard brain realizes you’re about to take a risk, it will make you think of every reason not to take it, not to do what you want.

If you don’t know already, it’s referred to as the twenty second theory: you have twenty seconds to act on your thought before the lizard brain kicks in. After the twenty seconds, it only gets more and more difficult to make the leap, to take the risk.

I’ve recently wondered if it’s better to – after the twenty seconds and the lizard brain is going – to just completely forget about the action you want to take. Why fight the lizard brain? There will be more opportunities, right? Or is it better to fight the lizard brain and see if you can beat it. From experience, I would say that you will win 1 out of 10 battles against the lizard brain. But is the stress of having to go through the other 9 battles worth it?

By not fighting the lizard brain, you feel a sense of relief. There’s no stress, no nervousness, no adrenaline rush, no anxiety, and most importantly, no regret that you considered something so deeply but never followed through.

But what if you end up challenging and beating the lizard brain; wouldn’t the success of whatever you were risking be glorious and euphoric enough to counter any of the hardships you have had to face in the past?

What if I had a solution for you? I do. (HT Keegan Morgan)

After the twenty seconds are up and you don’t act, ask yourself this important question,

are you up for it? Up for the battle with the lizard brain, up to the risks, up to the possibility of still being rejected after following through? The lizard brain can’t infiltrate this thought process; the beauty of knowing exactly what you want (and making the conscious decision to go after it) will make the lizard brain back off. The lizard brain is strong, but it has nothing on will power.

The next time you miss your twenty second window, the next time you catch yourself getting anxious, thinking of dozens of reasons not to send the email, make the phone call, ask that someone for their number, or make that committment, ask yourself, are you up for it?

 

Stay Positive & It’s Alright If You’re Not! But… Keep Track

Garth E. Beyer

Missing Your Shot

There’s two variations.

The first is when you take the shot and you miss it.

The second is when you miss your chance to take the shot.

It seems that the world gives us a sin wave of a life with the first variation above the line and second, below. We smoothly transition from taking a shot and missing it to passing up the next shot we can take.

It’s painful to get rejected, turned down, thrown back, kicked around, or left behind. The feeling is terrible and as a result, we think we’re better off not taking the shot at all. But, let’s make this realization together. Knowing that you missed your chance to take the shot feels a thousand times worse than taking it and missing.

Maybe you don’t feel that way at first, another one bites the dust right? And plus, it’s easy to say that more opportunities will come your way, not taking your shot on this one is fine. The thing is … your reactions to each type of “missed shot” accumulates.

The more times you take a shot but miss, the more likely you’ll be to make it next time you take a shot. Eventually reaching success.

On the other hand, the more times you miss taking the shot, well, that’s it, that’s a lot of shots missed. You’re no closer to success. You haven’t learned anything. You lost. Lizard brain 1, you 0.

I’ll challenge you to keep track of all those shots you don’t take. When fear sits next to you, tells you to wait, tells you to be patient, or tells you that now just isn’t the right time, record it.

1 for the lizard brain 0 for you.

No matter your type of personality, no matter the situation, no matter your goals in life; when anyone sees that the lizard brain is up 5 to 0, that provides all the motivation to take the shot with the next opportunity. Sure, it’s a way to cheat the system, but, hey, it works. Trust me.

 

Stay Positive & Keeping Track Of Shots On Goal Can Make You Feel Pretty Good Too

Garth E. Beyer