Should

“You should call them back.”

“You should post more on LinkedIn.”

“You should really try Pilates.”

Ah yes, the high priest of practicality has entered the room.

When someone keeps wielding the word should, what they’re really doing is trying to give meaning shape. They want the world to feel less slippery. Should is a comfort blanket stitched from control and care. It’s not always a bad thing. It’s a human thing. But how you engage with a should-sayer determines whether the exchange turns into a duel or a dance.

First, the recco is to resist the urge to armor up. When they say, “You should,” hear instead, “I care enough to think about you.”

Let that wash over you for a second. Then nod. Smile. And ask why.

That single word turns commandments into conversations.

Next, don’t counter should with won’t. That’s W40 on a small matchstick.

Try might.

“I might do that.”

It keeps the air open. It’s oxygen for curiosity, not judgment.

Then, you’re reading this so I know you like to go the extra mile with things… throw a gentle mirror back their way.

Ask what they’ve done lately that replaced a should. It’s amazing how quickly the tone shifts when everyone realizes how hard it is to follow their own gospel.

Stay Positive & Let Should Point To Somewhere New, But You Still Decide To Walk There