Expectations

You Deserve The World

Garth Beyer

But, it’s not about what you deserve. Remember the saying that Perks of Being a Wallflower so joyously reminds us of? “We accept the love that we think we deserve.”

But, in reality, it’s not just love – it’s money, it’s friends, it’s the education, it’s the surprises and it’s the weird life turns. That’s why I do my best not to think about what I deserve. Rather, life is better lived leaving it at wanting what you want and accepting what you get.

Forget what you deserve, what you think you deserve, or what anyone else thinks you deserve. If we would first stop limiting ourselves and refusing what other people or life offers us, then we could finally start being constantly amazed with life.

 

Stay Positive & Who Doesn’t Love Being Amazed

Garth E. Beyer

Unknown Fact

Garth Beyer

What if I told you the most unknown fact about life is that you end up putting in the same amount of effort to do as little as possible as you would if you had the bar raised and hopes high?

And all that fills the divide is passion.

And passion is the single best indicator of whether you are on the right path or not.

Makes you wonder why you considered the easy route in the first place.

 

Stay Positive & Life Gets Simple When You See The Facts

Garth E. Beyer

What Goes Around

Garth Beyer

used to come back around.

You do a good deed and someone will do a good deed for you. The saying was more about reciprocity than anything. Karma, if you will.

All positive for the most part, but slightly selfish. Karma has caught on.

What goes around no longer comes around, rather, what goes around, goes around.

It’s about the domino affect, about doing that good deed for someone and not knowing, not expecting, and not hoping that that person will do a good deed for someone else (or that it will ever come back to you). It’s doing a good deed for the sake of doing it. The action is the result.

You’re a dot. Everyone is just a dot. And no greater good can be done than connecting dots, sending frequency, life, emotion throughout this network we have created. In one sense, we have all come to realize that if we all give, care, and connect, that we need never to worry about enacting reciprocity, that to have the door held open for us, we need not to hold it open for someone else.

What goes around, goes around. Wouldn’t want it any other way.

 

Stay Positive & Puts Some Faith In Humanity, Doesn’t It?

Garth E. Beyer

Give In. No, Really.

Garth Beyer

There’s a million reasons why we surround ourselves by loved ones. Some obvious. Others, not so much. One reason in particular is to allow us to admit defeat but benefit from it.

Let me explain.

From time to time, our loved ones who support us, who helps us, and even, at times, look up to us, turn sour. Our loved ones are often “more knowledgable and experienced,” leading them to have a “realist” opinion of our decisions. In other words, sometimes those closest to us can be downright negative and even hurtful.

They will tell you that you are getting yourself in too deep, that you’re jumping the gun, that you can’t handle something, or it’s too much for you to chew. Now, I suck at math, but I ace’d statistics. If people who care about you – enough of them – are suggesting that you take a step back, take a breather, go with the easier option, if they tell you that you are pushing yourself too hard. Listen.

If you have one, two, or three loved ones suggesting it, maybe you should at least consider their option. If you have four or more loved ones advocating that you take that step back. Listen.

Yes, people who love you most are also those who worry more than they should. But this is as much of a reminder to listen to your loved ones as it is to make sure they hold you accountable.

Nothing is worse than letting loved ones down. But there’s a difference between that and having them being happy that you let yourself down.

 

Stay Positive & Sometimes People Look Up To You More When You Give In

Garth E. Beyer

The First Day Is Always The Hardest

Garth Beyer

Of course I’m joking here. It’s actually the opposite.

On the first day you have no expectations, you’re feeling things out, you’ve already accepted you may succeed, but you may also fail.

The first day you’re pumped. The first day your goal is just to learn, just to get through it. The first day you have the support of all those you told “I’m doing it.”

Of course, it’s worth to note that support quickly turns against you as you get further along your endeavors, which leads me to my point.

It’s not the first day that’s always the hardest, it’s the next day. Because doing things that matter never gets easier, you just get more out of it.

 

Stay Positive & Should Make Starting Now Easier

Garth E. Beyer

Self Delivered Progress

Garth Beyer

My co-worker dropped a great one liner the other week. She mentioned that you need to, “under promise and over deliver.”

I couldn’t have agreed more at the time. It encompasses a positive view of expectations. If you get someone to set low expectations and you proceed to blow them away, the person will be shocked, amazed, and grateful. In addition, by under promising, you are casting the safety net. If you can’t seem to deliver, it’s okay because you never promised that much to begin with.

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Part of the statement here needs to be revoked. While I still hold to the attributes I’ve stated, I completely disagree with one part of the statement to under promise and over deliver.

Eliminate under to create the saying “promise and over deliver.”

If you need to under promise something, then it’s likely that it’s best you don’t promise anything to begin with. Promising something that you’re worried you can’t deliver, or fully deliver, is not a smart promise. Smart promises is what gets us places. Smart promises say exactly what you will do with the guarantee of it being completely done.

If you’re interested in progress though, if you want to move up the ladder, if you want the recognition and admiration from the people who you fulfill promises for, then you need to promise and over deliver.

Before any skepticism is launched, let me say without any wiggle room, that there is always a way to over deliver. It’s this performance of searching for a way to over deliver, and then following through with it that creates progress. Self delivered progress for you through over delivering on promises for them.

 

Stay Positive & Who Knew Progress Was So Easy

Garth E. Beyer

Communication Mediums

Garth Beyer

There is a general concept when devising a communications strategy to list all the different mediums that you wish to communicate through. Before and after doing so, you want to rate each medium on how effective you believe it will be pertaining to the goal you wish to reach through that medium.

Here is a long list of various mediums that you may be using or may think of using next.

Print it out, highlight the ones you use/want to use, and rate each one.

  • Email
  • Newsletter
  • Text messages
  • Facebook
  • Teleconference
  • Notice boards
  • Direct mailing
  • Mobile app
  • CEO briefing
  • Posters
  • Logo’d pens/pads/etc.,
  • Lunchtime meeting
  • Intranet article
  • Launch event
  • Videos
  • Blog
  • Press release
  • Team meeting
  • Podcast on intranet

Doing so allows you to monitor the effectiveness of your methods of communication. By evaluating your expectations and results, you will learn where to cut expenses and where to redirect them.

Note: Many mediums may feel broad. If that is the case, make note next to it what how you will actually use the medium. For example, will you use Facebook for advertising? For starting debates with followers? For sweepstakes? Identify exactly what you will do through each medium.