Goals

There’s No Point In Complaining About What Is Or What Was

Garth Beyer

Hell

I’ve joked around about complaining, but other than that, I don’t bring it up too often. The reason is simple. I don’t surround myself by people who complain, thus, I don’t feel obligated to find something to complain about. Nor do I end up complaining that so many people complain. There’s just no point in complaining. Let me share a quick story of why.

I was chatting with some colleagues yesterday when one of them recalled me tweeting about the novel I was wrapping up edits on. I proceeded to tell her about National Novel Writing Month and how I wrote all 50,000 words in one month to produce my first novel. I broke it down to her and the other colleagues now listening that it comes out to roughly 1,700 words a day. A different colleague then asked me how I did that. I said to him, “It was hell.” (It really was.) He shook his head. He didn’t believe me.

The fact that I had written 50,000 words in one month seemed like a miracle to them. But when I stated that I went through hell to do it. All the sudden they didn’t believe it. They couldn’t. All they saw was a completed novel. All 50,000 words. (How could it be hell if you did it? I’m sure they thought.)

There are two lessons I really want you to take from this. The first is the majority of people who complain while they are working, don’t finish. In a sense, they complain themselves out of the goal they originally had. They complain themselves into quitting. They complain until everyone they complain to doesn’t care about what they are doing and so why continue doing it?

The second is no one is going to believe you when you tell them all that you could have complained about before you met your goal, shipped your novel, painted your masterpiece, booked that NYC gig. They will gladly accept words of inspiration and encouragement. But complaints? Forget about it.

If you’re afraid to go through hell, by all means, go through it afraid. But don’t by into the idea of once you’re in hell, you’re stuck. There are people all around you everyday coming out the other side (whether you hear them complain about it or not).

 

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Know When You Have

Garth Beyer

Every marketer, reporter and business person has a goal for those at the Pandorareceiving/purchasing end. Without a goal, it’s all just busy work. Yet, I see one big problem over and over again in their strategy to meet the goal: they don’t shut down their tactics to reach the goal once they reach it.

Pandora has a pop-up explaining that you can now use Pandora as your alarm clock. Who doesn’t love to wakeup to music they enjoy? The first few times I opened Pandora, I had to exit out of that same pop up before I could listen to music.

After the fourth time, I thought I would go ahead and use Pandora as my alarm. I didn’t really like my current alarm sound anyway. (This was, after all, Pandora’s goal.)

I set up the Pandora alarm and opened the Pandora app to listen to music again. Can you guess what happened? The pop up still came up advertising that I do what I have already done.

 

Stay Positive & Stop When You Reach Your Goal

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Get Your Popsicle Stick

Get Your Popsicle Stick

Garth Beyer

Popsicle Stick Marker

I’ve given you a popsicle stick and a marker. I want you to, right now, think of what you really want to do in life, what you love, what you want to invest in that you haven’t already. I don’t care if it’s hang-gliding, asking your girlfriend to marry you or starting a business.

I’m not in the business of getting you to create a business, but I am in the business of turning your ideas into reality. So take a moment right now and write what that idea is and write it any way you want. If it’s a name, a number, a symbol or a paragraph if you can fit it on there, it doesn’t matter how. What matters is that you do.

Now let me tell you about my popsicle stick. First, if you were standing before me, you would notice I don’t have one anymore.

This is a short story of why I don’t.

In middle school, two of my closest friends and I put valuables in a hard case and put it underground. We created a time capsule. The capsule contained a picture, Pokémon card, mini-hand cuffs and a number of other items. Importantly, though, it contained my popsicle stick.

It wasn’t mine to begin with, though. It was a popsicle stick with a girl’s name on it that our teacher used to pick students at random to answer questions. At the end of the school year, I asked the girl if I could have her popsicle stick. She agreed.

I treasured it. I treasured her. I held onto that popsicle stick until my friends and I decided to create a time capsule. I thought it would be romantic that if I ever ended up with this girl that I would dig up the popsicle stick and give it back to her.

That day happened. I dug up the box without telling my friends. This is what I learned:

What you have written down on your popsicle stick right now is down there because you’re not ready to do it – and that’s okay. One day though, you will dig up your popsicle stick and actually do what it says. For some, you might only need to wait until that time comes. For others, you might need to work hard at it – digging that popsicle stick up becomes a goal.

The girl and I didn’t last long at all. Can you guess what I did next?

I went out and got a new popsicle stick.

 

Stay Positive & Shh, My Friends Still Don’t Know

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Initiating Scared

Garth Beyer

Scared, Change Your LifeIt’s really quite simple. Just come up with a way to change something in your life, large or small. Are you going to drink more water each day this year? Are you planning to make a big move later this year? Are you wanting to write more on your blog this year?

There’s a lot you can do that is easy this year, but nothing is easier than initiating scared, so why not do it?

Do something easy so you can focus more on doing something that’s difficult, say, perhaps, overcoming scared?

By doing something easy, you create more time to focus on setting your expectations for the difficult, on building confidence for the difficult, on actually doing the difficult.

 

Stay Positive, But Not Scared

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The Thing About Advice

The Thing About Advice

Garth Beyer

There’s a lot of advice out there. Really good advice. Advice because other people took risks, learned from them and don’t want you to make the same mistakes.

That is all good and fun, but it’s partly wrong.

I remember a time when I was younger and living with my dad. He was trying to tell me to not do something that he did when he was my age. I turned to him and asked if he regretted the choices he made. I said to him, “What if. What if I do everything exactly as you tell me, that I do everything you suggest the way you suggest it. Then what. Am I supposed to be happy? It won’t be my life then.”

True advice is when someone suggests you do something a certain way but doesn’t resent you if you don’t. This is what I want you to keep an ear out for with this new year.

I want you to take the risks, make the mistakes, fail, but fail fast. If something isn’t clear that it’s the wrong choice, then it’s up to you to see whatever choice you make as the right one and not let anyone else make that judgement for you.

 

Stay Positive & This Is YOUR Life

Garth E. Beyer

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There Is No End

Garth Beyer

In the grand scheme of things, there isn’t. One completed task just leads to another. One goal reached is simply the starting point toward our next. There is no end.

But wait,

That assignment is due next week.

School ends in May.

10 more miles to run.

Just one more _____.

There is no end, yet, we act as if there is. The problem is that when we look at achievements as finishlines, we’re a lot less likely to start racing again.

“I did this assignment. I’m not going to start the next for a couple of weeks.”

“School ends in May. No need to learn much until it starts back up in the fall.”

“10 more miles to run. I’ll do my next race next year.”

“Just one more ____, then I’ll take a break for a while.”

The more we try to break our plans and goals up, the worse we stagger to reach the real ends of them, not just the ends we make up in our minds to make it seem easier and more manageable. Think about this the next time you “finish” something. Are you just using the completion as an excuse to wait awhile before getting back to meaningful work? Or?

 

Stay Positive & No End Could Be A Good Thing (You Decide)

Garth E. Beyer