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Episode 25: Feedback, Stopping Business Growth, Convincing Vs Converting And More – Podcast

Garth Beyer

On this episode of In The Box Podcast, we chatted about when you should stop growing your business (Yup, STOP growing it), the tiers of keeping in touch with people, the difference between convincing and converting as well as the difference between being defensive and seeking to be understood. As always, we had a bonus topic (bonus in the sense of always random, thought of in the moments before starting the podcast) where we talked about what advice we would give someone who has a tough time asking for or receiving feedback.

Enjoy. Then enjoy some more.

Episode 25: Feedback, Stopping Business Growth, Convincing Vs Converting And More

Growth – What is one indicator that you should stop growing your business?

Keeping in touch – Is sending an email considered “keep in touch”? or does one need to meet another face-to-face to keep a strong relationship?

Facts – What is the best way to convince someone to accept a fact is true?

Defensive vs Understanding – What is your interpretation of the difference between being defensive and seeking to be understood?

Bonus – What advice would you give someone who has a tough time asking for/receiving feedback?

 

Stay Positive & Experience Trumps Facts And Figures

 

Talking More

Garth Beyer

When I pick up the phone to pitch to journalists I don’t know… When I type up an email to send to a CEO I’ve never met… When I attempt to write a personal note on a LinkedIn invite to someone inspirational, but has no clue who I am… fear tends to creep up on me.

If you think cold calling is tough when selling, consider how tough it is to connect cold, to establish a relationship with someone who knows nothing about you.

Here’s what gets me through it.

Before I reach out to anyone I’ve never met, I remind myself the more people I talk to, the easier it will be to do, ask, and connect with people later down the line.

If you had to guess which scenario feels better, would you rather dial the number of a journalist who has never heard of you before or would you rather dial the number of a journalist who you’ve talked to before, if even once.

Or… would you rather send an email to someone saying “Hey, I’m friend’s with John Appleseed. He’s spoken highly of you. Would you have time to chat for a few minutes?” That’s certainly better than “Hey, would you have time to chat for a few minutes?”

The more people you talk to now, the more times you put yourself out there to warming a cold connection, the easier things will fall into place for you in the future.

The quickest way to dissipate the fear is to dive straight in it.

 

Stay Positive & Who Are You Connecting To?

Stronger Meaning In A Long Relationship-Less Amount Of Fun

Stronger Meaning In A Long Relationship-Less Amount Of Fun

Garth Beyer

The price you pay in a relationship that grows stronger and stronger is that you become more vulnerable. Both in the sense of getting hurt and of hurting the other emotionally. Before a relationship deepens you are extremely sweet and kind. When you do say something mean or rude it is said and taken as a  joke. You end up having a silly argument together out of it for fun.

But once deep into a relationship, jokes get taken seriously, even though there is no way in heaven that you would ever mean it. What was once perceived as helping the other out is now taken as criticism. In addition there is less patience, the other will be more inclined to snap at you when aggravated and it becomes more difficult to help the aggravated other feel unstressed.

More attitude is given and when aggravated, the emotion is directed at you and there is nothing you can do.

A simple example is that in the beginning my relationship I could tell that her hair looked like a hurricane had struck recently. We would have laughed and carried on with the day. I might slip in another joke in about her hair after we ran in gym class. Now that we are nearly two years into our relationship, I can’t joke about her hair. She will pout and run off to fix it rather than laughing about it and possibly extending the joke herself.

The answer to solve all of this…  is to be figured out.

Is there no cure for it? Is the fact that you are in a deep relationship mean that you are more credible for everything you say, that every word that comes out of your mouth is taken in the most honest and whole-hearted-whole-minded way? Then whose fault is it one when gets hurt? Is it the person who says something as a joke? Or the person who takes the joke seriously and reacts as if they really meant it?

 

Stay Positive and More Sincere As Your Relationship Strengthens

Garth E. Beyer