Respect

Correction Respect

Garth Beyer

Sometimes words come out our mouths before we think about them. After spewing them, we think what we should have said instead.

If you want to be respected, don’t think how you’ll say the right thing next time, don’t think how this won’t happen again, say what you should have said.

Correct yourself out loud.

When you fail in any shape or form, it doesn’t make you better to not make the same mistake twice, it makes you better to correct the mistake you made in the first place.

You’ll be surprised by how others respond and how you feel.

 

Stay Positive & Don’t Wait To Say The Right Thing

Respect

Garth Beyer

You don’t gain respect by creating something special. Nor by being better than someone else.

You gain respect by giving, by connecting, by sharing a moment.

During a panel event I held the other night, the panelists were asked what was one habit they’ve developed that they consider a secret; something little they do that others may not.

One panelist said every single day for years she has said hi to everyone in the office.

Familiarity breeds respect.

It’s inevitable you’ll share a conversation at one point. It’s inevitable you’ll give them something you have an extra of. It’s inevitable you’ll connect with them on a recent article you’ve read that made you think of them.

You can bet she said more than hi, but hi is the best place to start.

 

Stay Positive & Have You Started?

Building A Winning Team

Garth Beyer

I was ignorant when I began building teams. I didn’t necessarily make a big mistake, I simply wasn’t as efficient in my gathering of team members as I could have been. Early on I thought the best team members were the ones who were extroverted, spoke up in classes, sought extra work out and openly challenged things often. (Yes, basically people like myself.)

Doing so left out two extremely important categories of team members.

1) People who are extroverted and speak up, but only when called upon.

2) People who are introverted in the environment you see them in, but who are extroverted when on their own turf.

I don’t believe there are people who are introverted 24/7. I don’t buy into the idea that those who are extremely intelligent and passionate about something can do so quietly. They may put on a decent illusion, but if you get to the heart of what they love, there’s no stillness, quietness or introveredtness.

There’s talent all around you. What makes you a good leader (and gets you a winning team) is when you’re willing to actively call on people to join you as well as meet them on their own turf.

There’s a regularly held belief that if manager’s employees don’t see their managers doing tasks that they (the employees) are set to do, then the manager misses out on important respect. For example, a store manager needs to stock, run the register and reorganize the decor section (it’s one of the worst kept sections) in order to earn the trust of their employees as well as inspire them.

The same goes for those wanting to build a winning team. You’ve got to meet people on their level, ask to learn from them and show them what you already know. You’ve got to connect.

You might be able to gain a following sitting behind a computer screen, but you’ll never build a winning team.

 

Stay Positive & Go Build A Winning Team

Something To Pin

Garth Beyer

I consider myself a fairly creative person. But then I go on Pinterest.

We can throw paint on a canvas, carve our names in a slab of wood, and fill up journals with ideas, rants, and realizations. While I consider these creations personally invaluable, they are far from being valued by others.

Respected, maybe. But not valued.

Creativity contains both the mindfulness and skill to combine two or more unimagined pieces. Remember, the melting crayon art? What happens when you cut a marker in half, pour the content into a nearly empty windex bottle, and spray onto the colored side of Tootsie pop wrappers? Just imagine what you can actually do with a slab of wood?

If you want something to pin, you’re going to have to strain your brain and go through the emotional labor it takes to create something, truly create something.

Creating something sounds easy. Give it a try, though, and you will see just how hard it is.

 

Stay Positive & Respect Is A Good Place To Start

Garth E. Beyer

Time, Trust, Respect

Garth Beyer

Time

Showing up on time has its perks, but you rely on other factors being in the right place to benefit you. You can show up early, but if no one is there… now what? blog?

The times of showing up early and benefiting from it are slowly passing. We’re entering an era that every meeting, conference, and think-tank coordinator has a tight schedule.

All the while, others (primarily the millennials – guilty) are making the most out of every moment. They are continuously asking themselves if they are getting more out of “this” than they could be if they went to “that.” Options infinitum.

Being there early doesn’t create trust. Being there on time does.

Respect is attached to time and not only respect for those whose time you are using, but your own time. In the connected world, we can monitor where various events, groups, friends, meetings, and coworkers are. We owe it to ourselves to be respecting our own time as we are respecting others.

Sometimes that means leaving “this” for “that.”

 

Stay Positive & Spread Your Time

Garth E. Beyer

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Putting Yourself Out There (to be judged)

Garth Beyer

Keeping tab of the facts, every time you stick your neck out on the line, people are judging you. They can’t help it and maybe you can’t help judging them in return. Regardless, putting yourself out there is a chivalrous task: respectable, rare, personal.

There is a societal shift, though. Before, putting yourself out there was sharing your story, laying out all the highs and lows of your life (always more lows, of course) and making yourself vulnerable to the fact that you have connected with someone, that they know your secrets.

Now, this happens within the first few weeks of meeting someone. These facts and life experiences are no longer associated with vulnerability – they are simply common knowledge to anyone willing to ask. There’s been a switch.

Putting yourself out there has become talking about your passion, about showing the work you have created, and about sharing your notes, your ideas, your art.

Just as difficult as it was before.

But more worth it.

 

Stay Positive & Put Yourself Out There

Garth E. Beyer

I Don’t Believe In Luck

Garth Beyer

I don’t believe in being lucky. You attract everything positive into your life. “Luck” follows those who work for it. When you get it, it feels like you’re lucky, but you’re actually not.

Most people  just don’t know how to pat themselves on their back for the effort they put in, so they call it luck.

If you want other people to think your amazing, you first have to think your amazing.

 

Stay Positive & Pat Yourself On The Back (I hear doing that brings good luck … )

Garth E. Beyer