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In The Box Podcast

Episode 10: Verbal Commitment, Purpose, Moving On And More – Podcast

Garth Beyer

On this episode of In The Box Podcast, we talked about the mental battle of doing something new, how important verbal commitment is, why people settle, the purpose of life, holding on to your pass vs moving on, and more on self-worth. Enjoy

Episode 10: Verbal Commitment, Purpose, Moving On And More

New/Change – what is the biggest impediment to someone doing something new or changing?

Verbal commitment – How permanent or official should a verbal commitment be?

Settling – In one sentence, why do people settle?

Purpose – What is the purpose of life?

Moving on – What’s your take on moving on versus holding your past with you?

Self-worth – How can someone increase their self-worth or solidify it?

 

Stay Positive & Your Worth It

Perishable If Not Shaken

Garth Beyer

Settling.

It’s what we do on the path to mediocrity. It’s what we do when we lack confidence. It’s what we do when we don’t want to guide our own life.

It’s what happens to the best of us. It’s what happens to the worst of us.

We settle for certain people in our lives. We settle for a particular job. Neither of which provides much joy.

We settle for “good enough,” for “next time I’ll do it better/right/with more flare,” for “it’s not my job.”

Don’t let nature fool you. A settled lake may look beautiful, but a settled lake is more likely to be frozen over come winter, a settled lake you wonder if it contains any life.

It’s those who strive for better, who never settle, who make it through the seasons. Fortunately for us, we don’t have to settle like the water does. Every day we have the choice to settle or not.

 

Stay Positive & Shake Well

Not Settling But Keeping Where You Are At

Garth Beyer

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I’m a strong advocate for never settling, for accepting what you get whether you think you deserve it or not, and always striving for more.

However, there have been moments a dear friend reminds me not to settle with something. What is hard to convince him is that I’m not settling, I’m merely making the most of what I have at the moment.

I think to my Uncle who I continuously learn from. He once told me that although he is married and madly in love, he knows that there may be someone better out there for him. For one with a “do not settle” mindset, it’s hard to understand why he would stay with my aunt, but I get it, he is making the most of what he has now.*

When you make the most of what you have, it’s not settling.

Often times, making the most of what you have now is what leads to greater things in the future.

 

Stay Positive & Love Like There Are No Other Options And Your Options Will Multiply

Garth E. Beyer

*There are also points in life where you will have the chance to reach for something better, but you won’t take it. There is a type of satisfaction when settling that involves a sense of comfortability and there is a sense of satisfaction when settling that involves pure happiness. My uncle has the latter.

You Can Land, But Never Settle

Garth Beyer

If the chair is uncomfortable, find a new one.

If the book is uninteresting, quit reading it and toss it away.

If you don’t like what you ordered, get something else.

Settling is a habit that we get ourselves into. Settling does not occur sparingly – it’s not just about relationships, or classes, or traveling, or other worthwhile situations. We only find ourselves settling in the high risk situations because we settle for all the little things each day instead of changing them, redirecting, restarting, giving something new a try, or simply walking away.

When we land somewhere new, it’s sometimes a combination of anxiousness and excitement. When we settle somewhere, well, being drastic, we’re giving up.

 

Stay Positive & Never Give Up, Never, Never Give Up (HT to Chuck for teaching me this)

Garth E. Beyer