We all share a human connection, and it’s important to remember that when we think we’re the only one who feels something or goes through something.
When we feel something good and go through someone positive that no one else does, it leads to elitism. No good.
More often though, we think of ourselves as the only ones who are experiencing something bad, something negatively emotional, stressful or frustrating.
“No one else is going through what I’m going through.”
By recognizing that others actually are and do feel the same, that’s when you can find some balance. Note, it doesn’t negate the emotions, it merely balances them out with reality. (Misery loves company and there’s always company.)
Think of it akin to being in a classroom and having a question. You’re stressed and afraid to ask the teacher the question because you don’t want to look dumb. But you know you need to know to finish the assignment. And if you don’t, it’s going to put you behind in the class and your parents will be upset and you might have to retake the class in the summer. Oof.
All the sudden, someone else raises their hand. Asks the question you were afraid to ask. And you notice relief wash over not only yourself – but all the other students in the room, too.
In the moment, it felt like your world was being crushed by not knowing the answer to the question, but really the world of everyone in the class was being crushed.
Everyone around us has discomforts and pain, and we can find inner balance by recognizing it.
When we compare ourselves to others and think things like we’re the only ones to experience a mistake, a pulled back, a miscarriage or the weight of shifts in our culture – we’re lying to ourselves and feeling worse because of it.
I’m here to tell you no. You’re not the only one.
And that’s a good thing.
Stay Positive & Balanced
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