You can ask another if you could do what they are doing to get a greater understanding of their position, but you’ll likely miss the point.
You might learn the process, the task, what’s working and what’s not–but you won’t learn what they are thinking and feeling.
Consider the moment in a recent film or show that you began to speak outloud to the characters in the screen. “Don’t go in there! You idiot! Why would you do that?”
While the commentary might be annoying to those sitting beside you, it’s beneficial to you. You begin to answer your own question; why would they do that? What are they thinking that lead them to go in there? What were they feeling? What were they hoping to get out of going in there?
You have the power to do the same in the office in hopefully less anxiety-filled and fear-based situations. “Oh, you’re not answering my email! Why would you ignore it?” It’s a win-win when you begin exploring the narrative around the answer. You’ll learn how to connect stronger with another at the same time you let go of your original frustration.
There’s a reason. There’s always a reason and it’s almost always an emotional one, not a logical one. The quickest way to get there is to understand the narrative of others, and to let your own go.
Stay Positive & So What’s The Story They Are Telling Themselves?
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