You Can’t Help Them (Don’t Try To)

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Many of you who read my stories each day align with all that I have written about helping others, asking for help, and accepting help.

These bits of helping advice will save you in the long run. What will save you more, though, is accepting that you can’t and shouldn’t help those who don’t want to be helped.

It will always put you in a rough spot, aggravated and frustrated.

The rejection of help is the single most forgotten form of rejection. When you try to help someone else because they aren’t doing something right, or you can see that they are struggling, or they missed something crucial that you want to help by pointing out, you are asking to be disappointed.

Not only are you better off going back to doing what you were doing and focusing on yourself when you feel the urge to help someone who is resistant to your offers of assistance, but they are better off too. They are on their own path of learning. Having you trying to enter that path simply adds to their challenge.

When someone wants to do something themselves and they reject your offer to help, leave them to it.

Observe and learn from what they are doing on their own.

There won’t always be someone to offer you help.

 

Stay Positive & Best To Know How To Do It By Yourself, Just In Case

Garth E. Beyer

Photo credit: As for the photo here: it's just a gentle reminder that while you may have had your assistance rejected, you can still make them happy through other means

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