Those You Can’t Convince

The naysayers, the critics, parents, your boss – all the people you can’t please, can’t convince, can’t alter their worldview, can be ignored.

The naysayers can be shunned. The critics given the cold shoulder. The comments from parents, bosses, and those you thought were friends can be tossed in a void.

There are a lot of non-believers out there.

You’re not required to respond to them, acknowledge them, or, worse yet, believe them.

 

Stay Positive & Don’t Prove Others Wrong, Merely Prove Yourself Right

Work That Matters Test

I catch myself, admittedly often, not doing work that matters, work that makes a difference, work that’s risky.

There are a few indicators. Either I am texting someone or my phone is faced up so I can see if someone texts me. I might have a Facebook tab open. I might still be signed into my gmail account, instead of a client’s, for ease of responding to an email faster.

It took awhile to recognize these moments because they’re so small. And hey, I’m staying connected. It’s a good thing I replied to her email likely faster than anyone else she’s emailed today…right?

Do work that matters. Notice when you’re not.

 

Stay Positive & Raise The Stakes

An Answer To Meetings Running Past Time

Meetings rarely end when they’re supposed to. Ever wonder what to do about it?

Why not state the meeting will end 5 minutes earlier than you originally thought. Instead of 5:00 p.m., tell everyone it will end at 4:55 p.m.

1) Cushion is better than being rushed

2) When the organizer also keeps time (perhaps by setting an alarm) wrap up doesn’t go past 5:00 and they don’t feel as rushed to finish.

3) Knowing a meeting won’t last for a full hour, attendees will be encouraged to tighten conversation, ask the important questions, and won’t feel bad for staying an extra two minutes, because no one is going to plan something else at 4:57 p.m.

The bad side to this 5-min grace period: people may still view it as “we’re getting out 5 minutes early” and if they don’t get out at 4:55, they may get frustrated.

Then again, all it really comes down to is awareness. For effective meetings, you don’t need to follow this tip, you merely need to think about meeting effectiveness, talk to others about managing their time better, and put it at the front of your mind when you walk into a meeting.

 

Stay Positive & Aware

Risk Being Wrong

I would say the most number of blog posts I’ve deleted instead of publishing were ones where I predicted things.

Predict the success of Airbnb? Predict the future of social media? Predict the future of mobile apps, eBooks, drones? Who am I to make those predictions?

Since those mistakes (the deleting, not the predicting), I’ve realized that predictions are meant to make us think about things differently. Very few who predict are right, but those who are made dozens, if not hundreds, of failed predictions before hand.

The most interesting thing is that those who predict, we’re right early. They took the risk.

If I write about how successful Airbnb will be now, well, that simply doesn’t make sense.

Predict. Try. Think about things differently.

After all, rarely does anyone notice when you’re wrong, and if they do, rarely do they care that you’re wrong. All that it takes is to be right once. And when you’re finally right? Who cares. Being right isn’t the point.

 

Stay(ing) Positive & Thinking About Things Differently Is

 

Feng Shui

Feng Shui seems to be a dead term, but ever more powerful and noticed concept.

Last night my SO said it was dumb that she slept better when the closet doors and dresser drawers were closed. I reminded her there are thousands of ways that are impacting her sleep without her being conscious of it (and props for noticing these two simple and controllable parts).

Did you know the direction your feet point when sleeping matters too? Also, having your work computer in the room you sleep in takes a toll on the quality of your zzz’s.

What about the room you hold your creative meetings in. Surely you don’t have examples of disappointments hanging on the board from last week. That’s poor feng shui.

There’s a co-working space here in Madison that is absolutely electric, inspiring, and a perfect charging station for entrepreneurs. As far as I know, they’re not circulating any drugs through the vents. It’s all because of the way it’s set up: open, art on the walls, plenty of windows.

Ever wonder why some retail stores smell so wonderful? There’s consumer science behind it. People are more likely to purchase items when they are in a place that smells familiar and pleasant.

As for me, I rarely write anywhere besides my work place dojo, the book store or at my desk, my personal dojo where I control the smell, the sights, the seating comfort. I’ve learned to associate these spaces with a particular outcome of a great blog post, a wonderful beer column, a new idea clipped on my Evernote.

Small ways your rooms are set up can collectively have a big impact. More importantly, can collectively produce outcomes you want… again and again.

 

Stay Positive & Harmonize Yourself

In The Box Podcast

Episode 9: Referees, Fear x2, Haters And More – Podcast

On this episode of In The Box Podcast, we both thought we were covering a topic so there’s two times the fear talk, as well as discussion around what inspires something to become a referee, why white people riot, how to deal with haters and why working from home is a poor decision. Enjoy.

Episode 9: Referees, Fear x2, Haters, Working From Home And More

Referees – What inspires someone to become a referee?

White people + riots – Why do white people riot after their sports teams lose?

Fear – If you could give someone one tip on how to not live from a place of fear, what would it be?

Fear x2 – What was the last thing you were afraid of? Did you overcome it? How? If you didn’t, why not?

Haters – How do you deal with haters?

Working From Home – Do you think people should be able to work from home?

 

Stay Positive & Craft Those Connections

The Big Splash

The guy cannonballing in the pool may attract the views of everyone around…temporarily.

Olympic diver Mark Lenzi dove more than 10,000 times with few to no spectators before the world watched him.

It’s easy to forget every hero, every popular brand, every olympic star, started as unpopular, as obscure, as esoteric. Tiny splashes in a world-sized pool. Yet, now everything Apple does, everything Schwarzenegger says, everything Heidi Klum wears is a big splash.

But the big splash is the perception others have of you. Sure, it’s an honor, but you don’t see your splash as a splash anymore. It’s not some kindred act of getting laughs; it’s an art. Every splash to others is a dive to you.

Dive by dive by dive you’ll get to the point where everything you do is seen as a big splash, but don’t get lost in it.

 

Stay Positive & Centered On Your Dive