Why Try To Get Out Of Your Box, When You Can Use What's In It?
Crows look for certain gestures of other crows for signs of danger or food.
Prairie dogs pop out of their holes to find the dog on watch duty.
Dung beetles, when lost, look to the milky way for help.
I look to Seth Godin and local PR agency presidents and directors for help.
Where do you look?
Stay Positive & You Are Looking, Right?
“Those who don’t move forward aren’t sharing what they want.”
You would be amazed at how many people are out there who want to and can help you get what you want without being asked.
Born naturally good versus naturally evil argument aside, generally people want you to succeed, and if they don’t, that may be a sign you’re down a wrong path, surrounding yourself with the wrong people or wanting the wrong things.
Once you open up, once you allow yourself to be vulnerable, once you overcome the fear of accountability by telling people what you want, you’ll find yourself lifted there, easily, passionately, happily.
Try it. Trust me. Trust the people around you.
And if you can’t trust them, find new people to surround yourself with.
Stay Positive & Don’t You Think It’s Time To Be Lifted?
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Many of you who read my stories each day align with all that I have written about helping others, asking for help, and accepting help.
These bits of helping advice will save you in the long run. What will save you more, though, is accepting that you can’t and shouldn’t help those who don’t want to be helped.
It will always put you in a rough spot, aggravated and frustrated.
The rejection of help is the single most forgotten form of rejection. When you try to help someone else because they aren’t doing something right, or you can see that they are struggling, or they missed something crucial that you want to help by pointing out, you are asking to be disappointed.
Not only are you better off going back to doing what you were doing and focusing on yourself when you feel the urge to help someone who is resistant to your offers of assistance, but they are better off too. They are on their own path of learning. Having you trying to enter that path simply adds to their challenge.
When someone wants to do something themselves and they reject your offer to help, leave them to it.
Observe and learn from what they are doing on their own.
There won’t always be someone to offer you help.
Stay Positive & Best To Know How To Do It By Yourself, Just In Case
Garth E. Beyer
Photo credit: As for the photo here: it's just a gentle reminder that while you may have had your assistance rejected, you can still make them happy through other means
I’m currently coughing up a storm scarier than a real life sharknado. And I need your help.
This post is about me being human. I don’t always follow my own advice. I make mistakes, sometimes the same one multiple times (more on that in a moment). If I did do everything I preached, well, I wouldn’t be writing, I would be too busy doing it all. Actually, there’s not even enough time to do everything that I preach. That’s my problem. That’s why I have run myself down sick. I think there is.
I am calling on you to make this post into something remarkable. You’re going to become the leader, the sharer, the writer; not me. I will even set you up with the context and offer a few questions to get your mind working. Note: I don’t care about how well you write. If you have an idea, share it. Remember, the point here is that we are all only human.
Seven months ago I wrote a post about Biting Off More Than You Can Chew.
Now, this post that you’re reading, I have to say that I’ve crashed and need your input. Am I wrong for biting off more than I can chew? Is it okay to feel insignificant when taking on a lighter load? Will biting off more than I can chew get me to my goals any quicker than pacing myself at the dinner table so-to-speak?
I’ve battled this for some time. In the past, I have believed that by biting off more than I can chew, then crashing, then repeating those that again, that I build up my endurance. I’m not so sure anymore.
So, yes, this might not work, but I am asking for your help? What do you think?
Stay Positive & Comment Below or email thegarthbox@gmail.com
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I do my best to socialize with anyone around. From the results, I encourage the same to anyone wishing to get ahead in their field of interest. 
You will be continuously amazed at how many great ideas people have. You will see how relatable a random person is to you. And, worth remembering, everyone wants (needs?) a bit of encouragement – you’ll be surprised how the people who know you least, encourage you the most.
Most importantly, though:
You never know when you can be there to help them.
You never know when they can be there to help you.
Stay Positive & Thankfully, People Are Everywhere
Garth E. Beyer
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Can anyone relate, that as kids, you were impatient? You couldn’t quite understand why you had to wait in the grocery line so long, or wait in the car while your parents went into a store, or wait for your sibling to get out of basketball practice, or wait for this, or wait for that.
No need to raise your hands with this question, how many have you have been told to have patience? Or that patience is a virtue? Or to just be patient?
We grew up being told over and over to be patient, to wait, to not rush. I’m actually happy to break the news to you … we were taught wrong. Patience is not a virtue – yes, from time to time we can benefit from it but that is simply because as we are being patient, as we wait, our expectations of the result slowly lower so that by the time what we were being patient about happens, we’re just happy it finally happened!
Let’s start with a story. I recently went on a tour of different public relations industries in Chicago with the Public Relations Student Society of America. We all want to be public relations specialists and journalists. I’ve been in the writing industry for quite some time and have some strong contacts here in Madison. While on the trip I got to talking with a girl who is a senior at UW Madison, getting her degree in Journalism. She wants to work in the magazine industry. We talked a lot about it and I mentioned to her that I knew a couple people in Madison in the magazine industry that I could connect her with. We talked it over and I said if she emailed me some examples of her writing, I would review them and then if they met my standards, I would recommend her to the contacts I know. I figured that weekend she would email me. She didn’t. Being forgiving, I sent her a message reminding her I was willing to help her out any way I could and to send me a piece of content. She never did.
This is how I see it. She had patience. She figured if I was willing to help her then she didn’t need to get me an example of her writing right away. Then, as she put it off fear sank in. That’s what happens when you’re patient: fear sinks in, always.
As she waited, taking her time to respond to me, her mind gave her dozens of reasons why she shouldn’t ship me her writing, her art. She began to doubt me because I’m a student too. Maybe her ego told her she wanted to do this on her own. Regardless, if she had reacted immediately, sent me her writing, she could be making progress. But she didn’t. Inaction always proceeds patience.
One last note on the pitfalls of patience. Many people use patience to think things over, to ask better questions, to contemplate the situation, to work their brain. To that I have one thing to say, doing so sparks more fear than certainty. Instead of being patient and letting that happen, that’s why we have what is called an “experience”, that’s why we have evaluations, that’s why we have feedback. If we always do the checking before finishing, we will never finish, never follow through, and never send that email.
Let’s take a different look at impatience, specifically, the benefits of it. In my writing, I always end with saying a reminder to Stay Positive & something else that relates to what I wrote about. Being impatient is one of the greatest actions you can take to stay positive. When you are impatient, you always expect the positive, the best case scenario. You don’t have time for road bumps, detours, or anything else getting in your way. In other words, when you are impatient, you never focus on what you don’t want. And in the case that something problematic does arise, there is no sulking in it, you fix it fast and move on. Impatience will get you places more often than it will prevent you from reaching them. When you’re focused and positive, those are traits of someone unstoppable.
“We must always work, and a self-respecting artist must not fold his hands on the pretext that he is not in the mood. If we wait for the mood, without endeavoring to meet it half-way, we easily become indolent and apathetic … sometimes you just get in there and just force yourself to work, and maybe something good will come out.” – Russian orchestrator, Peter Tchaikovsky
Stay Positive & Impatience Credits You To Choose Conventionality
Garth E. Beyer
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A lot of mentors and even people you pass on the street have a goal to help as many people as possible. Is this right?
We’ve seen what mass production does – it kills the personal touch, the emotional labor, and devalues the process and product. Would it be better to help the smaller pool of people who truly want to be helped than forcing our assistance on people who don’t?
I can’t help but think back to one of George Carlin’s skits. He gets told to “have a nice day” so often that for once he just wants to be miserable, he doesn’t want to have a nice day, he’s had too many in a row, he wants someone else to have a nice day. Think about it.
Not everyone wants to be helped, some are content, some want to help themselves, and then you have those that are trying to help as many other people too and then you bump heads with them.
I can picture it now “help me help you helping me to help you help me, so long as I can help myself help you help you.”
I’d rather just have a miserable day than try to sort that out. That’s why you don’t see a bus driving off its route asking passengers to board who don’t, want, wish, or need to go anywhere.
That’s why I write for those who are searching for a bit of help and I sure as heck don’t go putting people in the position to need my help. No. Here when you need me.
The only responsibility we have is to show others that we’re here.
Stay Positive & “Have A Nice Day” Is Too Cliche’
Garth E. Beyer
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