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Episode 22: Stealing Ideas, Working With Narcissists, Making Art For Yourself And More – Podcast

Garth Beyer

On this episode of In The Box Podcast, we took a stab at answer questions about making art for others or for yourself, one way to gain clarity when faced with a decision between two options, why people fear their ideas getting stolen, one way to handle a heavier workload (likely due to a promotion) and what to do when engaging with a narcissist. Enjoy.

Episode 22: Stealing Ideas, Working With Narcissists, Making Art For Yourself And More

Art – Make art for self or others?

Decisions – One way to gain clarity when confused about making a decision?

Stolen – Should people fear their ideas being stolen?

Responsibility load – What is one way to handle being given more responsibility (think like getting a promotion)?

Bonus – One way to deal with interacting with a narcissist?

 

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The Machine Won’t Let Me

The Machine Won’t Let Me

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Most businesses, particularly franchises, attempt to streamline success with the implementation of machines. It makes sense given machines speed up most processes, cut overhead costs, and typically make math easier. Yet, when configuring your business to move faster, cheaper, easier, you’ve got to analyze how much control you’re giving to the machines and how it may affect customer satisfaction.

Chili’s, for instance, now has handheld computers at each table where you can play games, add dessert, and pay for your meal. Chili’s quickened the transaction time of paying for a meal, but at the expense of a possibly higher tip for the waitress, at the expense of leaving a final human impression with guests, at the expense of reminding patrons the business carefully choses who they hire to work.

Earlier today at Buffalo Wild Wings I attempted to order a beer. With five minutes left for Happy Hour, I ordered a beer. Moments later the waitress came back and said, “the machine won’t let me.”

Perhaps the machine forgot to account for daylight savings time or maybe management forgot to give priority control to waiters and waitresses over the machines.

When you seek fast, cheap, and easy, it always comes with sacrifices.

 

Stay Positive & Is What You Sacrifice For Machines Worth It?

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Expecting Conversation

Expecting Conversation

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I see a lot of social media posts and talk to others who create online content wondering why they are not getting any engagement, why no one is commenting on their Instagram photo or replying to any Tweets. My reply is two-fold.

Lack Of Communication

Those who see the blog post, the Instagram photo, the podcast, don’t know what they are supposed to do next. Amateurs – and I don’t mean it as an insult – simply state what they want the viewer to do. Some write “leave a comment in the comments section below” at the end of their blogpost or ask “please share this video with your friends” at the end of their YouTube bit. It works!

The more experienced communicators can craft the message in a way that asks the viewer to participate, to communicate in some way without asking straightforward. The wording, the voice, the structure matters, but takes hours of practice to get right.

Writing into a void is easy, writing to interact without requesting the interaction is di-fi-cult.

Take care how you craft your next message, when you write your next blog post, when you post an Instagram photo description. Be sure an objective viewer will know what you want them to do.

Lack Of Emotion

Simply stating, a lot of created social media content is safe. It’s banal. It’s all numbered, bolded, bulleted and smells like a PowerPoint.

If you’re not getting interaction (when interaction is what you want) you’re lacking emotion in your content. The Instagram photo isn’t moving enough, the YouTube channel doesn’t make the viewer feel like anything has changed after watching, the blog post doesn’t make the reader giddy to start something new.

The question to ask before you start anything, before you tweet, before you share a photo on FB: how do you want viewers to feel?

Just as important, the question to ask before you finish anything, before you hit send, before you upload: will the viewers feel what you want them to feel?

 

Stay Positive & Voice Matters

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Artists Without An Audience

Garth Beyer

I came across Shoshana Fanizza’s blog earlier today. In one of her recent posts, she mentions that she “went to a concert last night, a chamber music concert with Glass, Verdi and Wagner.  It was a great mix of new and old pieces that are rarely performed.” She goes on, ” I looked around, and GenX me was the youngest one there!  There were no millennials, except onstage.”

Confusingly, that’s both surprising and not. Not surprising because, it’s true, millennials have no time to be attending performances because they are out striving to gather an audience of their own. It’s a bittersweet tragedy, really.

Fanizza writes, “I remember asking a younger performer who was in town if he ever was able to be an audience member.  He replied that he almost never had the time.”

I say it’s a tragedy for the same reason why it’s surprising to me. How can you know what an audience feels at an orchestra, how they interact with the composers and each other, how they listen to the music, if you’ve never been an audience member?

This is, more or less, a shout out to all the artists out there: you can’t be a successful businessperson without having ever been on the other side of a contract, you can’t be a composer if you’ve never sat in the audience of another composer, you can’t be a phenomenal writer if you’ve never read a book, and you will never truly connect with an audience member without first being one.

Consider being part of an audience like visiting family. At times, it may drive you crazy and you may other priorities and work to do, but you still visit, because, in the end, it’s in everyone’s best interest.

 

Stay Positive & Don’t Get Me Started On Standing Ovations

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That’s Not Really A Guest

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At your first encounter with someone, whether it’s online, during work, or – in my case – at a Toastmasters meeting, you may think they are just a guest. What is a guest, though?

A guest is someone whom you meet outside of your routine life that you may or may not see again. Furthermore, a guest gives you two options to choose from. You can either treat them as a friend and connect with them, or you can carry on with your day without getting to know them.

Interact or ignore.

Laypeople base this decision off the degree of certainty that they think they will see the guest again. Those who expect to see the guest frequently will often choose to sit down and have a conversation. Those who expect to see the guest just this once will often choose to go no further than “Hello there.”

The linchpins of the world know that they need – no… they feel that it is only right to treat guests the same way they would a janitor or secretary, which not coincidentally is the same way they treat the average layperson or CEO.

Successful people don’t look toward equality, they look toward being human, connecting, and igniting positive responses. The only perk is that later down the line, having a conversation instead of ignoring a guest may come to benefit you. Heck, it’s just a simple real-world application of Pascal’s Wager.

Engaging in the life of a guest may or may not benefit you, but it’s always best to interact than to not.

 

Stay Positive & You Never Know When/Where You Will See Them Again, Trust Me

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Where To Start

Garth Beyer

That’s the question isn’t it?

You want to work for Twitter, you want to start a business, you want to kickstart your freelance career, or – in my case – you want to get into public relations.

Sure, you can read some books, bookmark some websites, favorite a few blogs and justifiably consume, but that won’t get you started. There’s no action to that; it’s passive learning and passive learning is preparation, not actual movement.***

The most solid way to start any journey is

with a conversation.

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An email, a tweet, a message is all that it takes to start. After connecting with @E_Humphrey, we conversed about the PR industry, we began interacting with each others tweets, and we even found out that we have a lot of the same connections in town.

And how did both her and I make those connections? It all starts with a conversation.

 

Stay Positive & Go Find A Mentor, A Friend, A Teacher

Garth E. Beyer

*** the exception is if you start a blog where you share what you learn (my pr box)

 

Let’s Cooperate

Garth Beyer

As in, fill in the mortar, wear the shoes issued to you, fit the status-quo, stick to the plan, follow the rules, do as everyone else does.

Traditionally, anything outside the aforementioned is considered not cooperating, which is a case of serious misinterpretation.

There are two correcting tributes about cooperation that must be noted.

The first is that cooperation is conversation. Cooperation is not an order of command, but a dialogue of two (or usually many more than two) people.

Second, cooperation is interaction. Interaction by definition results in a variety of influence and effects. A single demand of many is not interaction.

To cooperate is to dance, to play, to connect the loop of insight and feedback. Cooperation is vital in the workplace and even more vital in the home and the heart. Keep this in mind the next time someone tells you that you need to cooperate. You may need to remind them what cooperation really is.

 

Stay Positive & I Prefer Interactive Operation Over Cooperation

Garth E. Beyer