Stay Positive & Fat Joe Almost Had It Right
Garth E. Beyer
Success
Set For Life
A of couple months ago I was freewriting and an odd thought popped in my mind. True to the nature of the writing I was doing, I wrote it down.
A lot of people dont’ care about you, they just feel if they get enough people to just like them, that they are set for life.
I think I may have been upset that so many girls in high school led guys on, or that you can spend one wonderful day with someone, but never catch up again. The instances in life where you feel a connection with someone, but nothing happens after it are endless.
It’s a trick, whether conscious of it or not, and a very successful trick at that.
Its success is based solely on the precept that if they ever talked to you again, ever ran into you on the subway, or bus, or bike path, that you two could pick up conversation like you were long-time friends and can play catch-up.
I am no psychologist, although at times I like to think I am, but there is some psychological barrier that prevents you from despising the person that left you hanging, prevents you from completely ignoring that person when you see them again, and prevents you from acting like they screwed you over.
Want to be successful? Get a billion people to like you. It’s not hard; meeting someone once will do. While you may not “benefit” as much from leaving (not cutting) a connection you made than if you were to do the upkeep on the friendship, the connection is still there.
The way it ends up benefiting you is when you do run into that person who you shared a great experience with (get your mind out of the gutter), when you play catch-up and you find out that they had started a similar business to yours, or write on your beat in the features section of a well-known magazine, or are part of some influential group, you can pick up the connection you left as if it were just waiting for you.
So No. The majority of people, when they meet you, don’t care about you, no matter how great of a time you share or how connected you may feel to them. When they leave that connection, they don’t mean to insult you, they don’t even mean to use you (that comes later). Their focus is making connections and as many as possible.
As should your goal be. After all, the thing about these people is that they are set for life. They have all the connections they will ever need, whether they utilize them or not, they are there. Where are yours?
Stay Positive & Make, Leave, Then Leverage Your Connections
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What You Deserve
Life is not centered at giving you what you need, you’re on your own with that.
It is however, very much focused on giving you what you deserve. And so am I.
Sure it’s smart to separate your wants and needs, but for this particular case, let’s put them all in one and just call them needs. After all, everyone gets them confused anyway.
Is it safe for me to say that you have never received anything you needed for no reason? As much as we, as humans, fight the assumption, every choice we make is made on the justification that it somehow benefits us. While some people lean towards selflessness like Mother Teresa and others are predominately selfish like Hitler, it is never one or the other, both made the choices they made because it benefited them.
If prodded long enough as to why someone did what they did, it is inevitable to get a response which states that.
Typically unbeknownst, when you receive something you need, you receive it because you have worked for it – except, that you actually never worked for it, you worked for the person to give you it. Again, you are usually unaware that you have worked or will work in a way that will benefit the person who is giving you what you need. Obviously then, the bigger the need, want, desire, hope, and so on that you have, the harder you have to work.
Want to be on the ballot for the next presidential election? You have to work hard for an extremely long time and the hard work you do has to benefit as many people as possible in the largest of ways. The same goes if you want to be a successful businessperson. The same goes if you want to win the Nobel Peace Prize. Anything major in life requires major work. None of it will be given to you unless you provide the gift bearer ways that it would benefit them.
Then, while you are working hard, working smart, working more efficiently through the good and bad times in order to get what you need, life – and all it’s magic – steps in and gives you exactly what you deserve.
However, what most people fail to understand is that you can go through life working hard and never get what you deserve because to get what you deserve, you have to work on your character. What builds character? I think you can figure that one out by yourself.
In my opinion, and I am curious if you agree, I would rather go through life getting what I deserve than what I need/want/desire.
Stay Positive & Work On Yourself And Everything Else Will Come To You
Garth E. Beyer
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Why I Interact With Everyone: My Hope
My hope is that you remain discontent with how society defines success;
that you understand some rules are unjust and are meant to be broken;
that you use the broken pieces to build your character;
that you will light the match which ignites the fire in your belly, the warmth of your heart, and what is necessary for passion to turn into something tangible;
that you either walk away or plow over the naysayers;
that you never stop transforming;
that from time to time – the more often the better – you just start and ship something immediately, just do what you need to do right away and feel that special sense of completion;
that you manage to find a way to always keep your head up;
that you would be willing to get arrested for what you do;
that you always try;
that you be you;
that you
Stay Positive & Remember I’m Here For You
Garth E. Beyer
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There Is Always A Guarantee
People get nudges, hunches and feelings in their stomach that they are 100% right about something, without a doubt, it’s guaranteed.
That impulse, that intuitive response is what every PR Specialist must produce for every client. Whether it is a small guarantee of reaching a specific person in the audience you are reaching out to or as big of a guarantee as increasing profits by 67% within the first week and a half of implementing the new customer relations strategy you created.
There is no trust between you and your client without a guarantee. For a PR Specialist, that connection must be there because the success rate of your “guarantee’s” is what defines your credibility.
Making a guarantee is an act of colossal responsibility, and with this responsibility lies a power which is often abused. That power being the construction of a guarantee of outcomes in sectors of the strategy which you have no control or influence over.
To make a successful connection between you and your client (financially speaking as well), you must work to discover the largest guarantee you can make.
To make a successful PR Specialist, you must do this with every client and know that crossing the line even once can set you back further than where you began.
While you may believe that you will simply provide small, simple guarantees, you need to accept the fact that your credibility, your status, your repertoire is only as substantial as the guarantees you make and live up to.
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Busy? Get Excited
You’re busy. I’m busy. Other readers are busy. Your neighbor is busy. So is your boss, your parents, your friends, your co-workers, and the customer service agents you try to reach when one bad thing happens after the other.
(after all, haste makes waste)
I’m surprised you have time to read this, but I will be even more surprised if you take action after reading.
Clearly, everyone is busy. The world is filled with busy people. But don’t you think it’s odd that I don’t say that they are energetic people, or excited people, or people on their venture for success? Nope. Just busy, with “busy” feeling dull, tasteless and a lot like a job you hate.
Becoming a success isn’t about being busy, staying busy, or having been busy. When you ask a successful person what they did, what they are doing, or what they will do, they are ecstatic to share it with you. Every bit of their story, their plans, their to-do’s are drenched in excitement.
(get excited in a haste, it’s the only action that doesn’t make waste)
I see a trend in successful people; they maintain the quality of a child who is always excited and applies it to their schedule. Are they busy? They have a lot to do, but the excitement counters the daft emotions that cling to the idea of being “busy”.
Don’t be busy, be excited. And be excited more often than you are busy.
Stay Positive & Titillated (yea, it’s a word)
Garth E. Beyer
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Quadruple Book Regurgitation
Following my breakup with girlfriend, I have decided to streamline my goals to accomplishments. At the beginning of 2012 I had decided that I wanted to read 25 books before the end of the year and last night, or this morning – I don’t recall what time it was – I completed that goal.
In the last week I have read four books that I would now like to regurgitate for you. However, unlike past book regurgitations, these will be more similar to reviews, as I did not highlight or pull out too many examples to share.
Ironically, during pre- and post- breakup I was reading The Mastery of Love by Don Miguel Ruiz.
I firmly believe that this book should be read by every adolescent of love. I would define an adolescent of love as anyone who has not read the book. This makes it very black and white as to who I think needs to pick it up. Did this book help me save the relationship? Obviously not. Could it have if I read it earlier, yes, but everything happens for a reason. (And that reason is usually based on the fall of three aspects, which you can read more about in my Twelve Pillars regurgitation toward the end of this post).
While you may solely believe that the book is supposed to help you master love, develop an honest and stable relationship and build a stronger chemical bond between you and your partner, you have correctly assumed only half of it. Reading this book during the break-up assisted me in making realizations and accepting them. The key to it though is not necessarily the eye-openers or realizations, they come naturally if you remain objective. However, if I had to simplify it for you, love is about acceptance.
In short, no matter when, where, or why you would pick this book up, you are going to feel that it was written for you, just you, at just the perfect time. Love is all there is, better to learn how to master (accept) now than later.
1-5 with 5 being read it right now, I will give it a 4.5
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The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks and Win Your Inner Creative Battles by Steven Pressfield
This book was on my 50+ book list to read and to be straightforward (when am I ever not?), I got exhausted from reading all of the references to this book, all of the reviews and people suggesting others like me, to read it. As a writer, the more I know about the Resistance the better and who better to learn from than the one who put a title (the Resistance) to what prevents us from being creative.
After reading it in nearly one sitting, I was disappointed. Not in the sense of how it was written, or the advice in it, actually, the book is perfect but…
It’s perfect for someone who doesn’t know about the Resistance yet. For me, I’ve been aware of it, dancing with it and fighting with it for a fear few years now. As I set the book down, I really do believe that it should only be read by anyone who either has no clue about the Resistance or who is just starting to learn what being creative really entails.
If a blank mind opens the book, it will be taking in the knowledge Pressfield presents quicker than the desert floor absorbs a bit of rain, and craving more all the same.
While most of what Pressfield shares is only a reminder to me, there are certainly a few actions I will take as a result of reading it. One specifically is in response to reading the chapter “The Definition of a Hack”.
“I learned this from Robert McKee. A hack, he says, is a writer who second-guesses his audience. When the hack sits down to work, he doesn’t ask himself what’s in his own heart. He asks what the market is looking for.” (pg 152)
For quite some time I have been eliminating multiple sentences and sometimes entire paragraphs, rewriting portions that I think are too personal or that the reader wont give a damn about, excluding swear words and even holding back a bit of my real potential. Possibly more times than not, I’ve been a hack.
Rest assured, that phase is over thanks to reading The War of Art.
1-5 with 5 being read it right now, I will give it a 5 if you don’t know what the Resistance is, a 1.5 if you do
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These next two books are ones that came with the Success book package I purchased last November to jump-start my pursuit for just that, success.
An aside about reading Success books: You don’t need 20 of them. You probably don’t even need 10. A strong handful will do since they regularly repeat themselves in different forms. Also, you can purchase huge packages of 20-30 books on Success but what I have learned is that when you make and devote time to reading on personal growth, you have less and less time to continue doing so. Why? Because you are putting thoughts into action, advice into results and lessons into experience. By the time you begin going through your whole list of personal growth/ success books, you will have already changed your life so much that you are living the life you read about.
My immediate reaction upon reading and resting The Seasons of Life by Jim Rohn on my side table was that it’s a book that should be read in the Winter. It is a highly motivating take on the cycle of personal growth and from experience, most people are already feeling the height of their life during Spring/Summer. The Seasons of Life is not set to make where you are standing now even better, it is to give you a deep understanding of why you are standing where you are at this moment and advice on how to control where you will be standing one season, two seasons or three seasons from now.
Something I really enjoyed about the book was that it did not overdo it with the seasonal/nature analogy. There was a depth of optimistic realism – yes, that may be an oxymoron – that enables you to relate your life to that of trees, flowers, leaves, or the seasons themselves.
We all know that in the Spring we are often times ecstatic, in the Summer we are happy and content, in the Fall we are at peace but at Winter we are depressed. Reading The Seasons of Life does not present to you a way for balance or consistent happiness, but a mind-set and strategy to make the absolute most of every season.
1-5 with 5 being read it right now, I will give it a 2.5 and suggest again to read it during Winter
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The next book in my “success series” we can call it, was Twelve Pillars by Jim Rohn and co-author Chris Widener
They took a fictional approach on telling the Twelve Pillars of success. It felt real in the sense that we all wish it would happen to us, so there is an instant connection between reader and protagonist. Speaking of it being fiction, it was slightly predictable, at least the plot twists were but nevertheless the foresight did not degrade the story in any way.
There is truly a plethora of incredible quotes. For example,
“‘That’s great,’ Charlie said. ‘I am so glad for you. You will have to keep me posted as it progresses. Just remember that once a flower blooms, it still needs water and sun to keep it from wilting. The work isn’t over when the color comes out.”
The Twelve Pillars:
- A Chance Encounter (Personal Development)
- Live a Life of Health
- The Gift of Relationships
- Achieve Your Goals
- The Proper Use of Time
- Surround Yourself with the Best People
- Be a Lifelong Learner
- All of Life Is Sales
- Income Seldom Exceeds Personal Development
- All Communication Brings the Common Ground of Understanding
- The World Can Always Use One More Great Leader
- Leave a Legacy
Overall, Twelve Pillars was an entertaining read that allows you to put each pillar into action in your own life at the end of each chapter.
1-5 with 5 being read it right now, I will give it a 3.5
– As stated with the first book regurgitation on The Mastery of Love, I will now go into a quick insight about love/relationships from a combination of these two books, plus experience. Building a relationship is based on three factors: time, effort and imagination. HT to Jim Rohn, but I think I’ve taken it a step further than that.
Time can be based on quantity or quality, but in the real world, “time” is more “timing” than anything. It’s about spontaneity and creating the perfect moment.
Effort can be dwindled down completely to compliments. Women do not receive enough of them and once you begin to put in the effort, you will realize just how many they deserve.
Imagination is doing something fun, weird, and different together. It’s about getting her to think about the crazy things she has always wanted to do but never has and doing them! Dates, dinners and distractions have their place in a relationship but nothing will make a girl more happy than to do the oddball things she has always questioned about life.
Let me know any of your responses to my thoughts or your thoughts on the books in the comments section and keep coming back for more book regurgitations. After all, I have more time to read now. Is that an up side?
Stay Positive & Genuine
Garth E. Beyer
