Wants

Without Asking For Help

Garth Beyer

“Those who don’t move forward aren’t sharing what they want.”

Lifted By Others

You would be amazed at how many people are out there who want to and can help you get what you want without being asked.

Born naturally good versus naturally evil argument aside, generally people want you to succeed, and if they don’t, that may be a sign you’re down a wrong path, surrounding yourself with the wrong people or wanting the wrong things.

Once you open up, once you allow yourself to be vulnerable, once you overcome the fear of accountability by telling people what you want, you’ll find yourself lifted there, easily, passionately, happily.

Try it. Trust me. Trust the people around you.

And if you can’t trust them, find new people to surround yourself with.

 

Stay Positive & Don’t You Think It’s Time To Be Lifted?

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What I Want

What I Want

Garth Beyer

About two and a half years ago I wrote a very short list of things I want. I open up the document containing the list every month or so, usually when I’m cleaning out my DropBox.

At the bottom of the short list, I have a motto. It’s more moving to me than the list of things I want…

Stop thinking about what you want. Think about how you want to feel.

Instead of looking for what will make you happy, focus on what you’re good at.

Rather than planning to get ahead, find a way to help others.

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Stay Positive & People Over Platforms, People Over Things

 

What People Need And Demand: Digging Deeper

Garth Beyer

Obese people demand more chips.

What they need is almost the opposite. Obese people need to be taught how to be healthy. Obese people need to forget chips and cookies and soda and other “bad” foods. Obese people need to get out more, they need a bike, they need walking shoes.

Digging deeper though, I would say what they really need is hope and confidence and belonging. Meal plans sell hope, that’s why they are so popular. Personal trainers sell confidence, that’s why they are in demand. Sketchers GOwalk shoes sell belonging. Once you buy a pair, you notice everyone else who has a pair and you feel part of the tribe, that’s why they are so popular.

At face value, everyone seems to have a lot of needs. My nana always said that our wants are many, our needs are few. I guess I never realized how true that was until I dug a bit deeper.

 

Stay Positive & Sell What People Really Need

Garth E. Beyer

Watch The Specifics

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I often catch myself and others syncing and analyzing the specifics of what they want, only to forget the ones our audience/clients really want. Completely missing the sweet spot of specifics.

When we put ourselves first, we can have trouble pinpointing what exactly our audience wants. In the process of creating and delivering, one might touch the middle of the graph, but it needs to be centered and stabilized for success.

On the other hand, when we put others first, we put ourselves last and that becomes a problem when it comes to credibility, respect, and trust with our clients.

 

Stay Positive & Ask For Specifics If You Don’t Know Them

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We Want…

Garth Beyer

We want what when we want it. The real trouble is that it’s extremely hard to convince ourselves that we really want it now when it’s so easy (and illusively harmless) to put it off till later.

People think the problem is choosing what you want. It’s not. We can always find somethign we want. The real insight and issue lies in that there’s never as much risk in wanting something than in wanting it now.

Which is supposed to be a good enough reason to want it at a later time.

It’s not.

 

Stay Positive & Hold Yourself To The Now, Not The Later, Soon, Or Sometime

Garth E. Beyer

What You Deserve

Garth Beyer

Life is not centered at giving you what you need, you’re on your own with that.

It is however, very much focused on giving you what you deserve. And so am I.

Sure it’s smart to separate your wants and needs, but for this particular case, let’s put them all in one and just call them needs. After all, everyone gets them confused anyway.

Is it safe for me to say that you have never received anything you needed for no reason? As much as we, as humans, fight the assumption, every choice we make is made on the justification that it somehow benefits us. While some people lean towards selflessness like Mother Teresa and others are predominately selfish like Hitler, it is never one or the other, both made the choices they made because it benefited them.

If prodded long enough as to why someone did what they did, it is inevitable to get a response which states that.

Typically unbeknownst, when you receive something you need, you receive it because you have worked for it – except, that you actually never worked for it, you worked for the person to give you it. Again, you are usually unaware that you have worked or will work in a way that will benefit the person who is giving you what you need. Obviously then, the bigger the need, want, desire, hope, and so on that you have, the harder you have to work.

Want to be on the ballot for the next presidential election? You have to work hard for an extremely long time and the hard work you do has to benefit as many people as possible in the largest of ways. The same goes if you want to be a successful businessperson. The same goes if you want to win the Nobel Peace Prize. Anything major in life requires major work. None of it will be given to you unless you provide the gift bearer ways that it would benefit them.

Then, while you are working hard, working smart, working more efficiently through the good and bad times in order to get what you need, life – and all it’s magic – steps in and gives you exactly what you deserve.

However, what most people fail to understand is that you can go through life working hard and never get what you deserve because to get what you deserve, you have to work on your character. What builds character? I think you can figure that one out by yourself.

In my opinion, and I am curious if you agree, I would rather go through life getting what I deserve than what I need/want/desire.

 

Stay Positive & Work On Yourself And Everything Else Will Come To You

Garth E. Beyer

What It Means to Be A Minimalist

Garth Beyer

Being a minimalist isn’t entirely about throwing out all you have and settling for less. Ask any minimalist, there is no settling and very few things get thrown out (apart from when you transition from being a stereotypical consumer *see end).

Being a minimalist is about being satisfied with what you have. It’s about living in Zen, not trying to live in it.  After all, you know what they say about Zen. The only Zen you find on the top of the mountain, is the Zen you bring up there.

Being a minimalist does not mean you can’t have wants, it just means that your wants are the same as your needs. The reason so few can become minimalistic is that it takes a powerful mind and an even more powerful understanding of what you need to live, to be content, to be happy or whatever word you want to use for a quality of life.

Being a minimalist isn’t completely about having money, saving money or spending money. A minimalist can save all the money they make but it doesn’t bring them happiness or excitement in having a lot of money. What it does bring is freedom and peace. Minimalist’s think neither of having money saved or spending the saved money.

Being a minimalist is a mental state. A state in which is content  and happy with the avoidance of negativity, arguments and emotional attachments.

Being a minimalist does not mean that they can carry all of their possessions in a backpack or suitcase. It means that whatever the size of case it takes to contain their items, it bears no weight.

Lastly, being  minimalist is about minimizing to a degree you’re comfortable with, a phase in which you are free.

 

Stay Positive & Try Freedom, Not Torture

Garth E. Beyer