Attitude

Pushing It & Laziness

Garth Beyer

There is an action in the middle of the word “pushing” and there is a lot to be taken from it.

Laziness needs to be calculated by the amount of work expected to be done. One can easily be lazy at home by just sitting on the couch with a bag of trail mix while watching a movie. On the other hand, no one calls it lazy when a person does exactly what they are told at their job. They don’t call it lazy because they don’t have high expectations of the person other than to do a mediocre job at what they are told to do. This is a false pretense. Believe it or not – and trust me, it’s a lot harder to believe it, but the benefits outweigh the ones of denying it – you are lazy if you only do what is told of you. Both because what you are told to do is factory work and that the economy has yet to figure out a way to replace you with a machine. But don’t worry, they will be able to soon.

Of course, it doesn’t matter whether a machine is invented to take your place or someone offers to do it at a cheaper price as long as you quit being lazy. To quit being lazy means that you have to start pushing it. Lazy people at work don’t go the extra mile, they don’t ship the product before the deadline (and sometimes not even by the deadline). Nor do they do more than is asked or even ask for more. No. That is what pushers do, productive people, successful people, people who are making the robots to do your job. The pushers are the ones who didn’t just take a stand against laziness, they pushed it away.

There’s a special quality about people who push things forward, push things through and push things up. It has to do with the action inside of the word “pushing”. The pushers became successful because they understood that while they push to be better, their actions tell others to “Sh”. They create different ways to accomplish tasks in such a brilliant way that it mesmerizes others into silence.

Remember those people who said you couldn’t? The truth about pushing it is that you do it to shut them up. You do it to prove yourself right. You do it because you can’t move forward unless you push what’s in front of you.

 

Stay Positive & Don’t Tell Me To “Sh”, Make Me

Garth E. Beyer

A Conviction For Freedom

Garth Beyer

Forbidden love hovers over the City,
a pink cloud of cherry-kissed sunshine
warming faces who dare glance up
setting themselves free of doom, gloom
dictated lives
lived in dismal corners.

 The speaker of this poem clearly understands that dictated lives carried out in fear make people live in a very dark place, a place absent of happiness, love, sunshine and positivity.

I believe freedom is essential to our lives, it may even be the key to happiness, and is surely the shortcut to success for any individual willing to take the risk for freedom.  But what is freedom? Freedom is the ability to give your love to anything. The ability to see shapes in the clouds and notice the underside of leaves in the wind. The realization of your chance to not be anyone else but yourself. Freedom is the act of becoming more of your self. It is a flexible mind and a heart that never sleeps. Although, to our own demise, there are three things in life holding us back from entering a state of freedom: Traditions, fear, and love. All play large roles holding us back  in our individual paths to sovereignty.

Traditions: They dictate the majority of young people and encompass completely the lives of the elderly. Such as the live to work ethic, ones father worked to live, so he expects that to be passed down his generation. Families seem to force their children into taking their traditions and their lives instead of creating their own path. The other form of the live to work ethic is when ones parents force the life you should live based off the lessons they have learned. In reality, this action is only 5% beneficial because it is vital to take knowledge from those who have more experience but not when it revokes ones ability to choose. The third type of tradition that plays a harsh role in the containment of freedom is religious traditions. They create strict guidelines for the supposedly “proper way of living” which, ironically, are also passed down from parents. It seems that every form of so-called “togetherness” has been in place to force upon traditions that are destroying art, soul, peace and happiness.

Fear: We grow up fearing things, resenting them, avoiding opportunities, avoiding people, and social events. We lose sight of life and at times missing out on it completely. Although it is a long thought on subject, fear often shuts the brain down, turns your shoulder to the best in life and makes you forget why your heart is beating. Everything in life that you do, think, and say, can be narrowed down to either love or fear. Of course, you know which is more common – nearly everything you do is derived from fear. Think about it the next time you do anything in the middle of the day. Ask yourself why you are doing it and continue asking why until you either end up saying that you love it or that you fear something else. After doing this, you will then have a new goal and challenge in life – more love, less fear.

Love: There is a lack of love in everything we do and to who we hold dear. It’s clear by now that it is love that will give you freedom and with freedom, you will be brought happiness through every experience and interaction in life. However, it takes a special minded person to find love in their job and even a more special minded person to find a job they love. Unless you can overcome tradition and fear, you will never find your passion or your freedom. The other form of love that is lacking is the love we have for one another. For example, I was in Barnes & Noble one evening during the winter season. While searching for a book, I heard a mother tell a child to wear his jacket as they were about to leave. The young boy, probably the age of 5 or 6, said he did not want to wear it. “Put your jacket on!” the mother had screamed at him. After further yelling, she forced it on him. There are two options of love and care she could have taken rather than expressing all the negative emotion and resentment towards her son. First, she could have helped the kid into his jacket or could have told him to wear it just until they got to the car. She could have given him options to choose from and build his decision-making skills. The other option was to let a kid be a kid; young and free-spirited. If he doesn’t want to wear it then let him experience the cold. Once he is cold enough he will try to put it on and he will be successful. Of course, this way you will laugh at him because it is inside out and then help him. Isn’t that a greater experience then to just yell at him and chastise him for not doing it right? Pity. The world is deprived of unconditional love, in family, in work and in our selves.

Releasing oneself from tradition, letting go of fear, and creating a flow of unconditional love is the set course for true freedom, and takes us one step closer to world happiness.

 

Stay Positive & Ah Kuta Matata

Garth E. Beyer

To read the full poem of “Breaking Tradition”, click here

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Overdosing

Garth Beyer

Get good at it.

Nothing will get you to where you want to go quicker, than being quick and overdoing all you currently have.

Do more than is asked, more than expected, and more than you thought was possible.

 

Stay Positive & Overdose On Your Success

Garth E. Beyer

The Reason Buyers Never Buy Big And Dreamers Dream Too Small

Garth Beyer

The buyers have a mindset preventing them from succeeding because they have been taught that they have limits they can’t pass. The same goes for dreamers.

The dreamer only dreams of living in a mansion or directly on the coast of California. The buyer thinks of purchasing a house just big enough for her family and a good 15 blocks away from the coast.For the actual capabilities of her, of a person, even you, to achieve this – well, it’s easy.

Eliminate the restraints that both dreamers and buyers have in their minds and you have a dreamer dreaming of owning a private island and a buyer getting a yacht to go with it. The saying can go “if you’re going to dream, dream big”, “if you’re going to buy, buy big”, but both are meaningless as long as the limitations are there – and they are. They are there for the upper class, the middle class (who suffer the most from the mental hindrance), and even the lower class.

Every person has this nudge when going after something they really want, that they should settle for something just okay, something they can deal with. Stop it. By having the attitude of only dreaming and buying things that are just “good enough”, you are creating a world filled with just that. Personally, I will take the private island and the yacht over an apartment and a dinky car that will just get me by. In fact, don’t mind if I do.

 

Stay Positive & How About You?

Garth E. Beyer

To Those Who Say It’s Necessary

Garth Beyer

Nothing is necessary.

 

me- *Does something ridiculous*

mom- “That’s not necessary!”

me- “Nothing is necessary!”

mom- “Oxygen is necessary.. water is necessary”.

Me- “No it’s not, you can die just fine without those things.”

 

While for some this may come off as a damper, a depressing thought, let me change your world view on it.

The fact that nothing is necessary, that it is neither necessary to exist or become nonexistent, is one of the greatest gifts you have. Dubbing an item or personal state as necessary, creates a standard. If there is a standard then there is a below standard and above standard. In this case, while someone could fall far below the standard (death), no one can rise far above the standard (God, if you will).

Since nothing in life is necessary, it removes the ceiling of what is presumed as life’s standard and allows you to exceed what (with a world of necessity) would consider impossible. To those who view the world as if it were filled with necessities, all that is available to them, in success terms, are outliers. As you know, it is damn hard to become such a person. To those who view the world as it is, void of necessity, they become limitless.

In actuality, these people are the outliers in the eyes of those who view the world full of necessity.

 

Stay Positive & Blink. World View Changed

Garth E. Beyer

 

 

Garth’s Third Law Of Emotion

Garth Beyer

You’re parents just got into a divorce now you are torn between who to live with, all of your role models that helped you get through the hard times went off into the army or moved away, your friends have excluded you from their group, your sibling that you are closest too has gotten far into drugs and alcohol, and your grandpa who you were really close to has recently passed away. In essence, you feel like you no longer have a family.

Each and every one of us goes through extremely harsh points in our lives where we feel like we have absolutely no one.

Anger.. guilt.. sorrow… nothing can compare to the feeling of loneliness.

Whether you notice it or not, we all eventually come out of the slum, and things get better bit by bit. Have you ever thought of how it all started going downhill though?

Some days we feel like one bad thing happens after another, and after each bad thing that occurs, we feel worse and worse, as if the world is dissolving around us. These occurrences affect our thinking. We begin thinking more and more negatively. If you are feeling down, you don think positively at all, you dwell further in your emotions and the unfortunate circumstances that have occurred.

I want to let you in on a secret, the one way to get through all life throws at you, the secret… Stay Positive. Easier said than done huh?

If you are reading this, you likely know me well or understand that I am a very optimistic person. But even a happy outgoing person can find it nearly impossible to turn some negative circumstances into positive ones.

The list I gave you at the beginning of this discussion, of the divorce, the losing of a close one to death, and having your friends move away or exclude you – these are all personal experiences that have happened to me.

How can one person make it through all of those situations happening to them in such a short amount of time? With practice, I’ve found there to be two different ways to not just make it through, but to also turn life around.

Now, I think we have all tricked ourselves or lied to ourselves at one point, whether it be by telling ourselves “I can do it” to get rid of some sort of fear, or lying to yourself that you aren’t still in love with your ex, so you can move on. The idea I have come to find to make it through such hard times is this.

First way: Deceive yourself, but do it in a positive way. To get rid of the sorrow that losing your friends has brought to you, start thinking about making new friends, and how much fun it will be hanging out with them.

You need to aim for a feeling. The feeling you want to have your friends make you feel, the feeling of company, of sharing, of fun. Soon enough you will see things starting to shape up. Maybe your old friends have invited you to go to the mall or you met a new friend. 

We noted before that one bad thing happens after another. It is the same for the good things in life if you can just lean your feelings in that positive direction.

Now the harder of the two ways to start turning your life back around is to find something good in every bad, and this is possible.

Coming to a close, I want you to think of something you disliked about today so far, something that set your temper off, or hurt you emotionally, something you would have done differently. It can be the sort of thing from having a fight with your dad, or your internet being out. So go ahead and think of something…

The Challenge: I want you to use the harder of the two ways to become more positive and in a better mood by figuring out one optimistic thing that came out of the one unfortunate thing so far today.

Maybe your thought is your dad is now going to surprise you with an apology gift, or because your internet was off you so you took a walk outside and ran into your soul mate. (Hey, it could happen)

Newton has said that for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction, I would employ you to have the idea that, for every action of negative thought there is an opposite, if not greater reaction.

So remember, for every negative thing in life, there will always be at least one positive thing to be thought of about it.. it’s up to you.

 

Stay Positive & This Is The One Time You Don’t Want Balance

Garth E. Beyer